Teddybear,

Based what what was included in this post. I really cant help but thing that he does not respect you. If he is always yelling at the kids and lecturing you. PErhaps this is not the right environment for you and your children. As for not facing you during sex that could be a preference meaning that the particular position might be a favorite or preffered but you could also be correct too about that.

Greg

I am sorry for you. I am male, but in a similar position as you with sex. It doesn't feel good when you don't think your partner wants to be with you. I think the only thing to do is to tell him exactly what you said here in this post. My relationship with my wife is a bit strained, but it is usually better when we have cleard the air---said what' son our minds. good luck!Q

My bf hasn't touched me in weeks.And tonight he made me end our relationship by being emotionally disloyal.I put up with crap sex with him for ages but I know now I love sex,just not with him.He's a creep who sucks up to everyone but me(wish he would suck me once in a while instead of the 5 minute I can't control it so uh sorry I came crap)I wouldn't use sex to protect the kids.Guy sounds like a kid himself.Ruled my his d**k and manipulative with it.Hope you see one day you can do much better.I love my bf but he stepped over the line tonight.Stupid c**t.It takes 1 to be crap in bed,and you seem to be doing all the work.So I think you'll be a catch to someone else once you can be strong enough to realise your worth : )P.s a lot of blokes like it from behind so that probably isn't personal: )

i'm so sorry that you go through this in your marriage. it is not a healthy relationship. you have learned to keep him calm thru sex, my sister did this, she said that if she didn't have sex at least everyother day her ex would get very irritable.

it's your body. he shouldn't be yelling at the kids anyway, at least not as a parenting method, it doesn't work.

hjave you and he ever gone to counseling? would he agree? of course you're depressed, he's zapping any happiness out of you. and, the way he treats you, less than human is sure to make any woman with feelings feel like shit.

keep posting. if you post on the main message board, you will prob. get more responses. most people are sincere and genuinely care, but on rare occasion, there are people who prey on the weak, espicially women that are distressed, so just be careful.

We have been to counciling. I did not include that last summer, I found out that he had been emailing a man that he found on craigslist under men seeking men. I have found gay porn on the computer since that happened but he keeps saying that that is not what he wants. that is why the position upsets me.

TB, I'm so sorry, but it seems like you're in a very bad situation.
what you're discribing sounds like an emotionally abusive and sexually abusive relationship. This is not a healthy situation neither for you or your boys. Please, try to think about yourself, what is important in your life, what kind of life do you deserve and how to get yourself out of this situation.......