Depression Support Group
Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.
I've been slowly gaining weight for a long time now. I'm 245lbs and 5ft tall. I have no motivation to lose weight but I know I need to, especially because I have no stamina to go outside and go out of breath climbing up a flight of stairs. My boyfriend is into heavier women and I know he doesn't want me to lose weight. I've reached this point where I feel like I can't make myself happy or him happy because of my indecisive eating habits. I know he wants me to be happy but I feel guilty if I don't please him enough. But I want to find the motivation to lose weight and help myself. It has taken me months to even accept that I need to lose weight. I just don't know where to start as I feel completely uninspired.
I understand that choosing between loosing weight and maybe loosing somebody that is important to you is very hard. If he really cares for you and about you he will rejoice in you doing what is best for you. If he does not want what is best for you then in a sense, you are already alone. I have been there, though I am not saying as well as it could be said.
Until you know that you deserve to do what is best for you, you can not be motivated. You will continue to be stuck. It is very hard to see any possibilities when you are stuck.
I wish you the best. I hope you find courage and vision to act in your own interest. I hope you allow yourself peace to contemplate all this. Take your time and be kind to yourself.
Hugs