Are you not letting people in?

It MIGHT be anxiety .. rather than loneliness. It's possible that you are mistakenly associating anxiety with loneliness ... but I am no expert in the subject.

I dunno, but it sounds like you have a life many would envy. You say you are tired of being single so that pretty much sums it up. Guess it's time to check out the dating scene. Someone on as solid footing as you are will be a catch for somebody special. Good Luck

I have no problem letting people in at all.. that's what I mean - my life is not incomplete. There's no reason why I should feel this way. I suppose it's normal to want a romantic relationship.... but how do you deal with that, when you're not willing to settle for whoever's first in line wanting to be your boyfriend?

I am probably not making much sense.. I just need to talk.

I'm turning 25 and I have been perpetually single my entire life. And it's not that there is anything wrong with me. And it doesn't make me feel like there is something wrong with me. And it never really bothered me when I was younger, even when I was the only one of my friends without a boyfriend or girlfriend. But a few years ago, I had my one and only serious relationship. It lasted 4 months. I was head over heels in love - I know what you're thinking .. too fast .. but you can't judge a book you never read, and the relationship moved at the only pace it could have.

Ever since then, I've felt lonely. I never did before. Before him, my friends and family were more than enough for me. I wish it could still be that way. But no matter how hard I try, I can't go back, I can't stop feeling lonesome, and I can't return to being happily single like I was before.

So what the hell do I do? I know plenty of people who will get into a relationship for the sake of a relationship - and it's not hard to do. If I wanted, I'm sure I could land me a boyfriend in 2 weeks flat.... but I'm not that kind of person. Despite how awful it feels sometimes, I'd rather be unhappily single than in a fabricated relationship.

You have to love yourself. That's the secret to life.

When you are in love with yourself, you will be happy alone, or in a relationship.

I suppose I should clarify one point from my last post - I do not miss my ex as such. I do not want him back. I feel nothing but contempt - if even that - for the guy by this point. It's just that it was having that relationship, I guess, that made me realize that maybe being single isn't enough for me..?

Bridget - as lovely as those words are, unfortunately I have to disagree.

I do love myself. I am not insecure in who I am. I do not need or want a relationship for the purposes of validation or feeling valuable.

I am still unhappy.

(((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))

Thanks love.

but I wonder why you are unhappy....?

Seriously, I wonder why. Because I thought that if you loved yourself, then you would always be happy. (most of the time. you know what I mean)

engaging conversation? sex?

Both of those would be very welcome in my life, Daisy, that's for sure!!!!!!!!!!!! (Particularly the 2nd one, since I can get the first from my friends! LoL)

I know engaging conversation and skin to skin contact is very important for people to get at least once in a while.

People who are never touched in a loving way (platonic OR intimate) do suffer....

I think you're on to something here Daisy...

I haven't had sex since August.... so closing in on the 6 month mark.

Could have something to do with why this is becoming harder and harder to deal with?

Also, probably, the fact that I'm getting older plays a part too...

I think it's intimacy, not a sexual one I mean, a closeness or the lack there of. Hugs Sboomy, miss seeing you around here.