Sometimes we just have to suck it up and play the hand we were dealt.

But never stop dreaming about a better hand!

And yes I know. It sucks!


Gentle hugs to you and everybody who is in this situation.

I used to be in exact same boat....offer for final job I had was $9.50 to be courier for bank that my friend and AA sponsor was Senior VP of and big stock holder in....well I got my disability while working there and quite as soon as I could....LOL

But all the whole time I have had my 8yrs now self employment that absolutely love on most days...today was not one of those days...I called and canceled a student today....just did not want to get out of bed this morning...then ended up with trots after eating when I did get up.....anyway can you find some way to employ yourself with your skills and talents? I think those jobs are the best because they provide us with fulfilling role we chose for ourselves....

hugs good luck too!

This is a mixed bag for me. On one hand, I finally am doing at least part of what I love and get in great physical shape too. On the other hand, I'm paid well below what I'm worth in experience and since it's seasonal, of course there are financial challenges. Comparing it to the 7 previous years of being in management though, I'm great now lol. I guess it all depends on what you're looking to get from it. To some, financial security is enough. Others gravitate more to positions that define self-worth. Some want to mirror some part of who they are as a person. Some even work for competition. For others, it defines their life completely, and they're ok with that. It also helps working where there's mutual respect between workers and management/owner, and feeling like you're appreciated and heard.

I understand your predicament. It's rough...not liking your job, knowing you have more talent and skill, and being just stuck. It is still a very rough employment market out there. I was in the exact same rut as you....for three years at least. (Don't get discouraged, I'm probably a little older than you.) Finally, finally after two and a half years of hitting it hard, I got some interviews. Devastating when the first one didn't pan out...the depression hit hard. Eventually, I ended up applying for a former position with a former employer. And bingo!! Got the job, love it! It's a much better fit now then it was before, for various reasons. Of course, I'd rather spend my days out in the country tending to horses, but I've now got a well paying job that I'm good at and brings me much satisfaction. Hang in there. If you want a new job...persist. It will happen.

Thanks for all your comments and support!

we just have to remember the people who were millionaires and went bust. I saw a doco the other night about an english multi millionaire whose business had gone bust, so he was living in a trailer, his wife had left him, his back had a herniated disc and he was living on charity food giveaways.

he grinned his head off as he told his tale of riches to rags, like it entertained the hell out of him. and I saw that, and I grinned too.

I also had a massive comedown, and have had to start again from very low down. It's educational. it doesn't have to be forever, although a couple of years can feel like forever! But they're not. In the scheme of things, they're not.

You will rise again from the ashes like the phoenix. Take the time while you're down here at the bottom, to look around you and notice the view from here. It has taught me far more about being a good boss (by having lived under some bad ones) than anything else ever could. :)

Oh, yes! I am depressed about my job. It Is not hard work and it is only part-time but the hours are right out of the middle of the day, and 6 days a week. It is difficult to take care of any personal business or make a doctor appointment; I have not shopped for new clothes for nearly three years, except what I can pick up at Wal-Mart

But there are few choices for a woman my age in this small town and I am fortunate to have a job at all, and someday this too will pass.