Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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mcreathb
mcreathb
I am at my wits end. My depression has got so bad I just dont want try anymore. I also have anxiety that makes it hard for me to drive places and talk to people. I finally got a gf a couple months ago and it was the most normal i have ever felt in my life I didnt feel like a freak anymore. She broke up with me and she was my first gf ever and I'm 27. Mental illness has made my life impossible to live a normal life, thats all ive ever wanted is to fit in. I'm unemployed I have know idea where to turn. I obsess over little things and it makes the whole day bad. Ive been on every anti depressant out there nothing works, I tried mediation, exercise. Nothing works. I have come to the conclusion i will never have a normal life, i cant get married when noone wants me or have kids like normal people. i dont fit in anywhere and I'm scared whats gonna happen to me. I feel lost and alone. My mom dosnt even no what to do anymore I think she thinks im crazy. please tell me life is better cause ive been in a hole since the new year.
vallonzek
vallonzek
the truth is, nobody fits in anywhere, and everyone is a freak... in their own way... but some of us are more acutely aware of that fact than others... and some of us care more than others

instead of looking at your unique traits and thinking they're bad, embrace them, nurture them, and show them off

in a field full of white roses, will a girl pick a white one? or the single red one in the middle?

if i knew you better, and knew your "freaky traits" better, i could maybe help you to figure out how to turn them into positives for you... you said youve been on meds, are you seeing a therapist? he/she may be able to help with that

i hope this has made some sense, and helped at least a little
trayanne76
trayanne76
YOu just described me too. I am 40, no boyfriend. I was so bad last week I almost ended it. But reach down, way down to that part that says I will not give up. Even if its something small, do something for yourself. Every little step is worth it, even if its something like, making the bed. HAng tough, you will beat it. Wishing you well
Victorious
Victorious
Many of us in this group feel the way you feel. Well, let me refrace that although we have depression, anxiety, OCD, ADHD and so more, we feel it defferently but we can empathize with you.

Meds help but they are not happy pills. What makes the pills work in my opinion is the MD. I say this because it took my three psychiatrists to find the one that did the trick. So don't give up and keep trying. You will feel better.

I don't have to tell you that feeling depress.. is uhm, depressing so additional to the meds you have to try very hard to stay above of it.

I know it is bad and it is not easy. I could never say "just do it" because I am the first one to say that it is not easy but we can only try our best.
gramybear
gramybear
Wow, you are really hard on yourself! Of COURSE someone wants you. You just haven't found the right person and that being said, it doesn't mean you are not lovable to the right person out there. Have you been to the unemployment office to see if they have any jobs that you are able to do? You keep putting yourself down, your life down, and are very cynical. That is going to keep you in that deep black hole of a life and you will never come back up here to the light if you don't find ways to see the good over the bad, the glass half full instead of always half empty. Nothing is going to work if we don't help the process along. Easy to do? No, possible to do? Yes. And for goodness sake, you are NOT crazy. Let us support you here and help any way that we can. Hugs GB
mcreathb
mcreathb
Thank you for your replies I feel like the only one in the world with depression and anxiety. I have been on almost every SSRI I can think of some have worked for awhile some dont work at all. I havent been to therapy in a long time I feel like a weak person going to them. I wish i could try and accept me for me. However i dont like having these issues how am i supposed to embrace it? I have been hard on myself for as long as i can remember i want to be accept by people essentially women. I feel only having a gf for a short time when im 27 is a sign that im just not meant to have it. how is someone going to accept me with mental illness they will judge me and run away. Thank you for your kind words it means alot to me