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Cassandrax3
Cassandrax3
So today in therapy i said that i feel like i cant like, be with my family on major holidays or like talk to them because by talking to them about what happened, it'll then make me have to realize that losing my dad was in fact real and that i'll then have to accept it. Which is something i think i have yet to do. And i avoid talking to them about how im feeling and being near them on major holidays and things like that. I'm living in a nightmare and i just cant seem to get myself out of it. I want to get out of this major annoying horrible depression but i just cant do anything to do it. Sigh..........
deleted_user
deleted_user
It's not healthy to keep everything bottled up inside you. I think you already know this. It's like if you were a porter (someone who carries luggage) who was carrying baggage and then more is piled on. You need to ask someone for help, but think you can handle all of the baggage on your own, meanwhile more is being piled on you. Once you voice for help or get things off your mind, it can make it more manageable. Or it's like a can of pop/soda that keeps getting shaken, as the pressure inside it builds. If you let even just a little bit of that pressure out at a time, it can prevent it from bursting/exploding.

Sorry for my lame analogies.

At some point you will have to accept what happened. By no means do you have to rush into talking to others about it, but you can take little steps towards doing so. Make sure whoever you're talking to understands that you're not comfortable talking about it and that you may want to stop talking about it at any time. As you get more of it out, you may feel a little better to get things off your mind, and may feel inclined to share more.

In any case, do what you feel you must and take your time to get through this. Grieving can be a long process. It's not an event that happens overnight, it takes time.

Take care. *hugs*