Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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Friend19 10/31/2008

My X boyfriend keeps contacting me, he says he wants me back... He says I was the sweetest thing he ever had and how could he let me get away? He keeps calling and IMing me and its giving me anxiety.
He's making me want to hurt myself because he just wont stop it. Its been a year, why can't he just go away? I have too much stress going on right now and don't need this.

Whats the best way to tell him to basically FUCK OFF?

deleted_user 10/31/2008

I would tell him straight that you don't want him back or if he continues its harrasment and you can call someone for advice

(((Hugs))) good luck

traymac 10/31/2008

How 'bout fuck off? What worked for me is I thought of the most heinous thing he did to me and i'd rub it in his face until he hated me and left me alone. And i told him several hundred times to fuck off. Just my thoughts, i hope they work for you. :)

Inneedifsupport 10/31/2008

Ignore everything is best - if he still wont go away - change your number. Your peace of mind it crucial.

If you reply, it will never end!!

Be good to yourself and allow yourself to move on.

Friend19 10/31/2008

but thats sorta how i got him to leave me alone when i first broke it off with him... i rubbed something private in his face that he had told me [im not sure why i respect him enough to keep it private] and he left me alone...until not

Friend19 10/31/2008

i cant change my number--- im waiting for call backs for possible job interviews. so i need my phone badly...

deleted_user 10/31/2008

Could put a restraining order against him so if he does contact you he will go to jail.

Inneedifsupport 10/31/2008

Just ignore, nothing else will work..........believe me. Once you are responding he is winning x

Inneedifsupport 10/31/2008

If you dont want to change your number, you can ring the networks and they can barr his number from contacting you. If you are serious...

deleted_user 10/31/2008

if you want someone to leave you alone and they wont take the hint.

repeat your exact words over and over, everytime you see them or communicate with them.

eg, leave me alone.

i learnt this in confidence class few years ago, and it really does work!
i used it loads of times.

Friend19 10/31/2008

im afraid of him... what happens if he shows up at my house? im home alone...

Inneedifsupport 10/31/2008

remember we teach people how to treat us. If he wont respect you want to be left alone,,,, its up to you to enforce it.......I know its not easy, but be strong hon xxx

WanderingVet 10/31/2008

After you tell him to leave you alone or you will file stalking and harrassment charges on him, do not answer any phone calls from him and take him off your IM friend's list.

Then document any further contact from him (time, date, how contacted if it continues. Then notify the police.

Inneedifsupport 10/31/2008

ah thats diff hon, if you are afraid of him. Get a barring order set up and you can ring the police then...........

deleted_user 10/31/2008

If he shows up call the police for harassment.

Friend19 10/31/2008

Don't you have to have actual incidents to file any charges? or can you really just document every time he calls?...

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