Depression Support Group
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Hey guys I am back for a bit. I do try to keep in touch with some of you. I check my messages often and try to respond and let you know that I am still here.
Anyway that is not why I have posted this. Sense my wife died, I have lost my motivation to just live life. I don't feel like living any more. I am not suicidal but sometimes I just feel it would be easier to just give up on everything and just wait to die.
I met a wonderful girl on the net. I think the world of her and I know that she feels the same. I worry about if things do get more serious with her that I will not be able to love her as much as I should, That I would still be in this state that I am in and I would just make her miserable.
She very much wants to be in my life and I would very much like to have a friend and companion to have at my side. She knows that I am not ready for a serious relationship and she says that she understands why I don't want one right now. But I don't know if I will ever want to be in a serious and committed relationship. She says the she understands that as well but does she really understand.
It is true that I am desperately lonely but that is because I rarely have any human contact. I am a social creature that will thrive as long as I have positive human contact. I don't miss being in love because I am still in love with my wife. I still feel her in my heart and she speaks to me" Not Literally " No I do not talk to my dead wife unless dreams count. I know that I am not crazy.
I feel a lot of love for this person. I have shown her everything that I love and hate about myself and she has not run. She has shown me all that she loves and hates about herself and I have not run. I have had conversations with her that very much resemble this 1 and she knows how I feel.
My question is should I let someone in my life that I truly care about if I know that I will never truly be happy again. I only think that I will pull her down into my pit of despair. If I care for her would I put her through that.
Anyway that is not why I have posted this. Sense my wife died, I have lost my motivation to just live life. I don't feel like living any more. I am not suicidal but sometimes I just feel it would be easier to just give up on everything and just wait to die.
I met a wonderful girl on the net. I think the world of her and I know that she feels the same. I worry about if things do get more serious with her that I will not be able to love her as much as I should, That I would still be in this state that I am in and I would just make her miserable.
She very much wants to be in my life and I would very much like to have a friend and companion to have at my side. She knows that I am not ready for a serious relationship and she says that she understands why I don't want one right now. But I don't know if I will ever want to be in a serious and committed relationship. She says the she understands that as well but does she really understand.
It is true that I am desperately lonely but that is because I rarely have any human contact. I am a social creature that will thrive as long as I have positive human contact. I don't miss being in love because I am still in love with my wife. I still feel her in my heart and she speaks to me" Not Literally " No I do not talk to my dead wife unless dreams count. I know that I am not crazy.
I feel a lot of love for this person. I have shown her everything that I love and hate about myself and she has not run. She has shown me all that she loves and hates about herself and I have not run. I have had conversations with her that very much resemble this 1 and she knows how I feel.
My question is should I let someone in my life that I truly care about if I know that I will never truly be happy again. I only think that I will pull her down into my pit of despair. If I care for her would I put her through that.
You won't know if you'll truly be happy again until you give it a chance. Sounds like this woman understands where you're coming from and is willing to give you a chance. Your wife will always be in your heart and soul and I'm sure she would want you to be happy again. My parents were married for 41 years before my mom died in 1987. She left a note in her purse for my dad 'in the event of'. She stated how happy he had made her, what a wonderful life they had, and to go on and be happy. Dad did find someone and was once again happily married for 23 years until her death from Parkinson's almost 2 years ago. He just started wearing both wedding bands together, which I find really sweet. He is 89.
I wish you the best! :)
Give yourself a chance; if love grows then nourish it and live in the extended moments of love! If love does not grow then accept it and know that you will be none the worse for the experience, and that you might even be stronger for it!