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Shame

hopeinjoy
hopeinjoy
What are people's thoughts on shame? Cause I am truly overwhelmed by it. (I am starting to think that a lot of it boils down to being a part of a family that has loud, inappropriate/embarrassing behavior in the neighborhood. And as I become more separated from them and healthy/normal/sane, realizing how profoundly embarrassing they are, publicly.
cristledreamz
cristledreamz
i feel a lot of shame. mostly cuz i'm so imperfect and perfection is what i feel i should be able to attain. i'm ashamed by my awkwardness, insecurities, depression, self-loathing, lack of self control, etc... shame sux.
ElenaNJ
ElenaNJ
I think shame is when you do something wrong that you feel terrible about OR when someone calls you horrible things or physically/sexually abuses you, shame results.

Sounds like your family embarrasses you, and you're ashamed by the stigma that you're associated with. Are they good people though? Are they derelicts, criminals, mean, abusive to you? I hope not. I'd be grateful to have my mother live closer or have a closer knit family.
ZAZAS
ZAZAS
Sounds like you are on to something for you. Shame comes from a lot of places. Seems to me, yours is you family.