I use to feel the same way about all of me but I started to point out the good that I have, and reassure myself I have nothing to worry about.

this used to be one of my biggest problems but recently after a few meetings i feel good about myself proud to be who i am. u just need to love urself and feel good about urself.

I have problems with my self esteem as well, it mostly comes from the fear that I'm not nearly as good at things as I think I am. I guess it's like, I would hate to have too much self confidence so much that it just winds up lowering my own because I don't want to overcompensate or seem like it. Kinda hard to explain, but I often am feeling down about myself and people tell me I'm too hard on myself. I can be quite critical at times of my mistakes and my appearance.

GOD LOVES U NO MATTER WHO U R OR HOW U LOOK.
REMEMBER THAT PLEASE.
GBU
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I just feel like my appearance repels people. This all started when I looked in the mirror yesterday and nearly burst into tears. I feel like an ogre.

Hello. I'm new to the site but I have a very similar issue. I've hated how I look for almost all of my life. I was shot in the eye at a young age so I've had a swollen lazy red eye that wanders on it's own.. On top of that I've had acne my entire life and there are tons of other issues with my health. Anyways.. I've come to find out one thing.

Most of my hatred towards myself stems from how other people look or treate me. I've noticed I want to change many things about myself for my own personal comfort. But there are some things that have subliminally creeped into my mind and burned into it deeply.

I don't get a lot of attention from other people sexually.. I haven't had sex or been in a relationship for over 6 years. There hasn't even been a single person that has complimented me or expressed attraction to me in that long either. Eventually I started seeing every bit of my body that was flawed. Starting from when i was shot in the eye I began to read body language almost instinctively, especially where people's eyes go.. how their smile turns to a frown.. There's to much to describe briefly. This made me begin wanting to change myself to be more appealing to others, but at first I didn't see it that way.. I just hated myself. It could be entirely instinctive and subliminal. It took me a long time to realize the difference between what I wanted for myself and how my mind came to those conclusions.

I think we should all be able to do what we wish to make ourselves comfortable with our own bodies. Unfortunately for me the technology isn't there to do what I desire.

One thing you should always remember is you are an amazing person with many complexities. Even if I don't know you and have never seen you, I want you to be happy and enjoy life. If I had all the money in the world I would use it to make you happy with yourself and your body. One day I hope the technology is available for everyone to change every bit of your outward appearance to match your inner-self.

You never know what will be available in 10-20 years..

Thank you all for your support. It's been a rough few days, I feel awful in every emotional way. That's why I like coming here, I'm not ignored or judged or made to feel like I'm at fault for everything.

I do know that with depreshion ..also comes a ...distortion ..of what you think you look like ....this has been a problem with me all my life ..since I have had depreshion all my life .....even when I was young and in good shape ...and not over weaight ....the worst I felt or the worst my depreshion ..the more I thought I was uglier .....and the more time I spent infront of the mirrior the more ugly I seamed to become so I would hury up and do what I had to do with my face and hair and than that was it for mirrors that day ...........when the depreshion wasent so bad I would look in that same mirrior and I dident look half bad ... ..infact I looked prity good ..and I could take my time getting ready ...and even take ...a peak .in a mirrior ..through out the day .................it was somthing that ...I had a hard time understanding ..........now I am over weaight ...from going on antidepressants .......and ..I still go through the same thing ......when I am bad I look ugly ..and I even go so far as feeling bad that my h can't have a better looking wife ....ofcorse he loves me ..but that doesent stop my thinking that .....when I am doing better I think I look prity good ..but I don't like my body ...but I understand I had to look after my head ...and I do like who I am ......and my h had better love me ...lol ......so you might be being caught up in somthing like this .....you schould look into your antiedepresants and see witch ones are.causing weaight gain ...and change them ..also look for meds that cause hair loss I have lost ..half my hair ..from two meds I was on ..befor I caught that .......take very good care of your self ....you are important ...you are beautiful ...you are the only you there will ever be or ever was ...that makes ..you priceless ............God bless

OK from the male perspective you should know that what men find attractive can vary greatly. For example, I am much more attracted to the "cute " girl next door type than the Hollywood bombshell pinups.
When my friends and I are out , sometimes we play a game of rating women [we have to me pretty bored ] . I know that sounds like we're chauvinist pigs but women do it too . But here is my point : The 1 to 10
numbers varies greatly between us. So what one man may see as plain
another may find attractive.
I would suggest loosing the extra weight for not only self confidence reasons but more importantly health reasons. I think it would do wonders for your self esteem and it is something you can control.
One last point ..even though I think the weight loss is important, there are porn sites with the category "BBW" which stands for big beautiful women. If all men found it unattractive they wouldn't put it on the sites.
After all my discussion of physical characteristics there is one more important thing. Your personality can change people physical opinion of you. A kind , loving person will begin to appear more physically attractive . There is something in humans that draw us to good people.

For men, it's easier. I'm average Joe, not completely hideously ugly, but not supermodel material either. My self-esteem resides in what I can DO.

I can totally relate!! I have a long face, and big teeth. I have felt like I look like a donkey or horse all my life. I see myself as huge, when others tell me I look to thin. I'm struggling with an ED on top of depression so I've lost too much weight recently and my cheeks are sunken in. My counselor told me my face looks longer with the weight loss. I feel terrible and SO SO ugly. I want to hide my face too. I don't wear makeup or girly clothes or shoes, so typically guys avoid me, which for me is a good thing. In fact, its a safety, I can hide away without all the attention I use to get when I dressed up, had a healthy weight, and wore make-up. I don't care anymore as long as I'm clean. I'm out to impress no one. Try to find something in yourself you like. Be grateful for your body, even if its just one thing, like the ability to walk. I hope things improve for you!