Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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momx3a 05/19/2013

I suffer from depression and have for almost 15yrs. Well 1 week ago today I walked out on my fiancee due too emotional and verbal abuse. I imagined I would feel better not being yelled at and called names. Wrong! I'm even more depressed now than I was before. I worry about him,think about him and I miss him!
I am so lonely and sad i cant stand it. This is taking a huge toll on me emotionally and physically. I don't eat and rarely sleep. I just totally hate life and dont find any enjoyment out of it. Its just misery and pain.

deleted_user 05/19/2013

While it might seem odd to you now, I don't think that what you're feeling is abnormal. It can be a big change leaving a relationship, and even if he was abusive, you still might miss certain things. Of course I don't know your situation, but getting out of abusive situations is generally a good thing if one is able. Pain can last awhile, and it likely will lessen with time, but talking about it on places like this and maybe real life friends or a psychologist can be quite helpful. Sorry you're feeling so awful, but great job on walking out on him. Do not let him manipulate you if he tries to say he can't go on without you or something like that. Hope you'll feel better about things soon.

deleted_user 05/19/2013

I am so sorry that you are going through this. I can totally relate to this because after me and my boyfriend broke up I felt completely lost. I knew that our relationship was toxic and traumatizing, but I missed him so much and kept thinking about all of our good times. I had the urge to call him all of the time because he was my best friend. It's like that one person who understood me and he was a part of my everyday routine. What I know now is that it will get better, at first emotions are so raw, but it will get more manageable over time. Try reaching out to family or friends, and keep busy. Keep in mind that even though it may not feel like the right decision right now because you feel awful, if u reflect upon how he treated you leaving him may be worth it in the long run. Sorry if this does not help, stay strong and know that you're not alone.

deleted_user 05/20/2013

What you're experiencing is grief over the loss of the relationship. I've been working through the loss of my 19 year marriage for almost a year now. There are days that I hit a low I never thought I could hit. I started focusing on the "now" and that has helped. What you are feeling now will not necessarily be what you feel an hour or a day from now. The low this morning may turn inot resolve by the afternoon.

It may be hard to do, but think of this as a very positive sign for yourself. You made a choice to end an abusive relationship. You may not be seeing short term relief, but you can be proud that you took steps to improve your future.

Best of luck to you.

ThePepperMan 05/20/2013

It sounds like you are missing what you hoped would be. Keep reminding yourself of what really was; that should help keep things in check.

Gentle hugs

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