Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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winesar21 12/23/2011

I am struggling soo much right now with the holidays around the corner. I was in a long term relationship but we had been fighting constantly for 7 months. I just wasn't fun anymore, but I didn't want to lose that person who I planned on marrying. We no longer speak and it is hard on me right now. I keep thinking of all the things that we had talked about. I know its good we are not together but I miss that companionship. I feel like I settled and was afraid to let go in fear that I wouldn't find someone again. I"M SOOOOO AFRAID I am going to be alone forever now. :(

deleted_user 12/23/2011

We have all loved and lost it just takes some time to heal a bit before we move on sometimes.But it's a good time to focus on your own needs for awhile to get some direction.

WallyBear 12/23/2011

Sweetheart,

It's better to end things before you are married. As hard as this is,
a divorce would be much worse.

You did the right thing. You don't have to "settle". You will find the right guy. Just try to be patient. :-)

deleted_user 12/23/2011

You are not weak. It takes strength and courage to end an unhealthy relationship. It is very hard to let go of someone you love.But sometimes that is what is best and it lets both of you be free to seek genuine happiness for yourselves.

deleted_user 12/23/2011

you are definitely not weak - it would have been so much easier to stay in the relationship than walk away

I am sure you wont be on your own for long- it will be hard to start with and holidays ALWAYS make things seem worse

its now time for you - take a little of that me time - time to heal and grow - decide what you really want and then go for it

I do hope the new year is so much kinder to you that this one has been
Hxx

winesar21 12/23/2011

Thanks ya'll for the support! You are right I don't have to settle and eventually I will find that person that can make me happy. It was a cosntant emotional struggle for me everyday of that relationship and I was rarely happy. I just need to adjust to depending on myself.

ketchuplover 12/23/2011

You go girl :)

deleted_user 12/23/2011

I felt the same a few weeks ago but even though it hurts a lot I don't cry anymore, it does get better

winesar21 12/23/2011

I hope so, because all I can do is think about what was supposed to be

deleted_user 12/23/2011

I still wish for it : ( but I know it wont happen, maybe it's different with you. But if you are the same as me just give yourself a few weeks. It still hurts but no where near as bad. Hugs

winesar21 12/23/2011

I know I don't want it because I don't want to put myself through that hurt that that relationship caused me. It's just adjusting to be on my own. I know things will be better once I find a job and I can get my mind of things

ZAZAS 12/24/2011

Yes, once you find a job and get your mind on something else it will get better. You can force things to be the way you want. Just be glad you had the strength to get out before things went to far and marriage.

deleted_user 12/24/2011

If it will make you feel better, I have been dropped by 6 people in one year. Positive thing is that It gets easier every time.

winesar21 12/24/2011

You guys are all right! Thank you for the support :) I know once I get busy with a new job I will be alright and things will fall into place.

ocdPositive 12/24/2011

I admire your strength. It is not easy to hold out for what is best in the long term. Merry Christmas.

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