You are overwhelmed with grief and it has you thinking these thoughts but you are CARED about and as you reach out for support you will begin to feel better. Coming here and being with our support group and all of the wonderful people on DS is what pulls me through the day and it is often ALL that pulls me through because I am coping with some overwhelming challenges. Together taking it one step at a time we can survive this and in time life can be much better. We only have to take it one step at a time and keep reaching out and not being alone. Here we can find the support we need to survive. Just keep connected and take it one step at a time. ((hugs)) Patricia

Outside of depression from the grief over the loss of your mother what else is causing your pain? If you share you may feel better and find answers. Gentle ((hugs)) Patricia

My fiannces are a mess. I dont get much helpp so im on my own, i know im not the only one, but my Mom was my best friend and i feel all alone

I wish there is a magic answer for everyone who is dealing with grief. But there isn't, there is only life. I know its hard when you have lost someone who was so close to you for so long. All you can do is keep her close to you inside, don't let it overwhelm you. I heard something on the radio yesterday about people who cannot let go over a lost one, cannot find closure. I'm sorry i don't remember what it was called, it was a commercial for a study they are doing. But this proves that you are not alone in this, there is help out there. You just have to reach for it. Stay strong.

I will try to share some of what has helped me to survive:

There is help with utilities for low income homeowners. Contact your utility companies for information.

There are food banks where you can get emergency food supplies and that may be helpful.

For your job situation there are often support services and job fairs where you can get your resume out there and make contacts. One of the best jobs I ever had was from just repeatedly going back and applying and keeping in touch with people at this business.

It may be helpful to get into a grief support group and even some churches have these and that would allow you support for your grief and may provide help in other areas such as food and resources. Some churches are even providing support groups for people left out of work and would be a great networking tool.

I'm surviving on disability income so I understand what it is like to be in a crises financially and have to go without some needs being met but I'm hopeful life will improve over time and I have enough blessings to keep me holding on until then and this support group is my biggest blessing right now. It is keeping me alive to give me the time needed to see life improve. We only have to take one small step at a time and with good support we can make it. Just focus on what you CAN do to help yourself and get connected to local support groups so you are around others that can provide needed support and assistance. Sometimes it is not so much what we know but who we know that can get us thought the rough patches in life so it really helps to work at getting connected. Start out slow and just work from there. ((hugs)) Patricia