Depression - Teen Support Group

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I need help....plz help, Im bawling....

alimac2009
alimac2009
I am a 16 year old with out a relationship in my past. I have been ready for a relationship, a serious relationship for years and no luck with getting any. I know I am ready, I am ready for life and everything, I have made posts upon posts about how it never happens and get replies from people telling me how not ready I am, I am young with my whole life ahead of me and all that crap, well I already had my childhood stolen from me, and I cant get it back, I overcame that and I am ready for a relationship, I dream about someone that loves me, and that I would die for, I am ready. This is my biggest problem here, I have met people online, and they started dating me and after the first day, I NEVER hear from them again. I dont know what it is but its making me think its me and making me feel like I'll never find someone who will love me like I need. I really need help, I am crying my eyes out with how bad this is hurting me.....
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm in the exact same boat as you. I never had someone love me for me before and I never had a relationship before either. Everyday, I have been alone and I hate it. I just want to spend my life with someone who will always be there for me and I would always be there for them. Sometimes we just have to stay strong and keep up hope.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I know how u feel. I've never had anything remotely close to a relationships. Just boys taking advantage. U shud try findin people out in the world, not on the net. Internet relationships rarely work out. chin up hun. *hug*
11cents
11cents
i feel that way too, but the thing that keeps me hopeful is when i go out and get so god damn depressed seeing other people together actually helps me i mean if half the world has someone then there is someone out there for you but u may have to wait, for example i have a cousin who is 25 and she is GORGOUS and has a great personality yet shes only had 2 boyfriends and i always wonder why she isnt with someone but she just keeps looking and i no shes just waiting for the perfect one and if u rush it you may end up making a mistake, itll come, im srry that this probably doesnt sound like what u want to hear but its the truth, hope u find someone:)
alimac2009
alimac2009
I Just know tho that since I have been waiting so long, and I need a relationship so bad, I am going to fall in love too deeply with someone who wouldnt care one way or the other, I cant find anyone out in the world, the closest gay I know is almost an hour away, people around here dont look too fondly on us. Its just too much.....
deleted_user
deleted_user
it may not be the fact that you are not ready but the fact that others arnt ready for thr type of relationship you want
you may just be feeling like you need someone close to make you feel safe/ok
yet alil more advice dont date people on the net about 80% are just hoping for sex im not saying that about everyone but they are not
11cents
11cents
im so srry ur feeling so bad i wish i could magically give u a man, i am the same way with guys though ive never had one but i feel like i will fall in love to quickly, why do people not look fondly on u dating that guy? maybe i could find a soulution for that
deleted_user
deleted_user
ive had a few relationships recently trust me i was much better off before all im saying is dot pressure yourself into a bad relationship like i did
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sweetie there is no doubt in my mind that you are ready for a relationship but everything comes with time. You may be ready but the people around you may not be ready for that type of relationship. Allow them to do the growing up that you already did and they try it again. Don't rush into these things because you may not know what you are getting into. Be patient, it will happen. Don't seen too desperate because that will push people away. Let it come on its own. Let the fly come to you. I'm here if you need.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sweetie there is no doubt in my mind that you are ready for a relationship but everything comes with time. You may be ready but the people around you may not be ready for that type of relationship. Allow them to do the growing up that you already did and they try it again. Don't rush into these things because you may not know what you are getting into. Be patient, it will happen. Don't seen too desperate because that will push people away. Let it come on its own. Let the fly come to you. I'm here if you need.
alimac2009
alimac2009
Just wanting to clarify I am lesbian, and where I live people dont look too fondly on gays....and its a very small town so everyone knows everyone and there arent any other gays for about an hour...away. My parents are very over protective so they wont let me out of the house anyways. Only for school.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I kno exactly how u feel...and i'm in the same position as you..i am ready and if you think you are ready, then u really are ready. And trust me...it's not you, it's them, I have come to learn this. If you need anything or anyone to talk to, I'm always here for you!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
online relationships can be difficult, i fell hard for this guy named Adam and for a month straight we were all lovey dovey then BAM he stops writing and ignores me. now he has some other girl from online. i would never date someone online. its hard and it hurts.
deleted_user
deleted_user
This is exactly how I feel. Well not exactly since we can't feel the same feelings but it's how I feel. My childhood was taking away from me, I'm 16, think that it's my fault, I'm SO ready for a serious relationship it's not even funny. The few guys(and I mean like 2 or 3) that I've been with have only lasted for a few days and sometimes not even. And one actually lasted for almost 6 months but he dumped me through e-mail the night before our half year anniversary.... And honestly, the only thing the guys wanted from me was to make-out and have sex. I'm 16 for heavens sake! I've promised myself to commitment till marriage.... and honestly, I'm read for a serious relationship.... I've BEEN ready for like ever!
deleted_user
deleted_user
True love, real love is not something that can be hurried along. Dont let your insecurities rule you. life is going to take you places just be patient, be yourself and allow love to come into your life in many forms. dont restrict it by saying you want to fall in love and do it now. Let there be time to develope that connection with someone, let it grow and please dont settle, you are worth so much more than that. It will happen for you, just give it time, and make yourself happy in the meantime dont expect someone else to do it for u
deleted_user
deleted_user
same here i want a realationship but i am not very open towards women o can have them as friends but i never have the courage to ask them out