I think I would be pissed off lol. It's not right for her to cut u down or anything just becuz she doesnt like ur bf. It's ur choice who u talk to or hang out with, not hers, even if parents are supposed to teach us right from wrong. What's so wrong about a bf? If my mom did that to me, I'd tell her to back off lol. It sounds bitchy, but don't feel guilty becuz she's not happy. We can't cater to everyone all the time.

I hate it when parents make their kids feel guilty about being themselves and making their own choices. Our parents are supposed to be their for us if we need them and teach us the basics of life and after that they have no control over what we do or who we become. I dont think you should feel guilty at all for not being who she wants you to be. Your only capable of being yourself and you will do what feels right for you, no matter what anybody else says or does, you live your life for yourself and nobody else.
I have felt guilty for doing things against my mothers will but I didnt let it get me down because I knew that what i was doing was right for me.

she makes me feel so bad sometimes, like I am a bad daughter or something. And I have told her everything I can think of to make her understand. I have even put her down so she would know how it feels. But nothing changes, I guess it will never change and I just have to be me. Thanks for all your replies.

dont listen to what people say you should feel,what you should say or do because that is not you!
take time and listen to what you feel !

There's no need for you to feel guilty about anything. My mom hate my boyfriend too cause of her oldest son saying lies about him to her and of course she'll choose her real children over me. But that's not gonna stop me from loving my boyfriend. I don't care what she does to me. But this isn't nothing new to me cause she's been doing this with all the people I hang with and yet she asks me why I never hang out with anyone or go out with anyone and that pisses me off.

i would deffinetly be mad b.c my mom also has done that in front of me. its not our faults we cant live up to there "standards" and ur bf makes uu happy so ur mom should respect that!

I am going to be honest. A guy should never come between family. I let that happen and it's been 1 year and I still haven't forgave myself. I hurt so many people over a stupid guy who means nothing now. Take my advice fix it before it's to late

I am going to be honest. A guy should never come between family. I let that happen and it's been 1 year and I still haven't forgave myself. I hurt so many people over a stupid guy who means nothing now. Take my advice fix it before it's to late

sadly, that's a loaded situation. see, you're right in feeling so mixed up. If your boyfriend really means a lot to you, then good for you. you need to let your mother understand that. but you have to make sure she understands that it's about you liking him, and not about you wanting to live your own life and make your own mistakes and basically rebel. The reason you feel guilty is because you feel like you're not living up to her standerds, right? like you're letting here down in some way by choosing him. My advice is to talk with her, if you can, about why she doesn't like him. and see if you can't try to understand that a little. because if you can, then it'll be easier to change her mind. good luck with whatever you do.

First of all hun, you shouldn't feel anything but content w/yourself. It's all part of growing up, that is, wanting to please your parents but it's also important to know that in life, there is always someone who is going to be disappointed in you or against your beliefs & values, etc but its not your job to please everyone - especially not if you feel it's making you unhappy! So don't feel guilty. You mom is probably just concerned for you but doesn't know how to express herself properly. I believe you have a heart of gold and are able to love both your boyf and mom at the same time! x

Springer, I just dont feel that it is right for my mom to make me feel like I have to choose. I dont think that is what a family does. Even if he is wrong for me, she should just be there for me if it ends. I would never make her choose. She had a boyfriend that I HATED!! and I didn't make her choose, they were even gonna get back together and I told her that if that is who she wanted to be w/ then just be with him she shouldn't not be w/ him because I dont like him. And I feel that he tore our family apart..... but I know how it is when you want to be w/ someone so bad. I just wish she would understand that. I have tried to talk to her it doesn't help.