Depression - Teen Support Group
Teen depression is marked by persistent sadness, discouragement, loss of self-worth, and loss of interest in usual activities. Depression can be a temporary response to many situations and stresses. Teens may be more susceptible to depression due to the normal maturation process, the stress associated with it, and conflicts with parents as they become more independent.
So my ex has been coming back into my life on and off since she and I broke up. Well, the most recent time that she came back, she apologized for all the things that she did to hurt me and make me depressed. She then told me that she has a terminal disease. I don't really know what to do or handle my emotions at the moment. It currently has been depressing me a lot and wondering if she is telling the truth or not because I still have a small amount of feelings for her. I just wonder if I made the right choice of breaking it off, even though the relationship depressed me a lot and led me to a lot of things that I have regretted doing such as I started cutting (which I stopped later), I pushed away a lot of my friends and family which made me lose a lot of them and then a few other things that I don't really feel comfortable saying. Over all it was a relationship that started consuming me and ruining my life. I just don't really know what to do, I want to get over it because it still does get me depressed when I do think about it, but then I feel bad for leaving her. I do not know what to do, please help.
We, as humans, are very social beings. We need human contact literally to survive. But some relationships are very unhealthy. If the person makes you feel bad about yourself, you need to back way the heck away. Nobody, and I mean nobody, deserves to feel bad about themselves. If that person can't accept you for who you are, then they don't deserve to have you in their lives. You deserve better than that. Everyone deserves better than that.
So, yeah. It sucks now. And you probably feel guilty. But if your hurting in the relationship, then it's not going to work. It will never work.It's hard to say and even harder to hear, but it's true. You will inevitabley get your heart broken. Be their friend, but only that.
At first it's going to be hard but what happened, happened. You broke up because at a point in your life, it's what you decided was best. It sounds like you regret it because maybe she was a comfort zone, despite all the negatives. And that happens to a lot of people, it's happened to me. It makes you second guess your decision.
I think breaking up with your ex was best, based on what you mentioned above, but only you can really decide that for yourself. But you need to accept that you made that decision for a reason, and now you need to commit to it. There will be times you will want to go back to the old days, but the past is the past and now you need to take the future one day at a time. You will meet new people, and make new memories. Take this experience and use it as a learning curb. You deserve someone who will make you happy, and listen to you, support you and make you forget all the shit stuff in your life even for just a moment. Yes it will be hard to find that someone, but don't focus on finding them, just live a little, laugh a lot and see where the wind takes you.
Just remember, one problem at a time! It's hard to keep your head above water when you're up to your ears with emotions.
If you ever want to chat, I'm always here :)