Depression Supporters Support Group
This community is dedicated to spouses, children, relatives, co-workers and others who are actively supporting someone suffering from depression or other serious mental illness. Depression can bring about intense sadness, melancholia or despair that has advanced to the point of being disruptive, which can have a grave impact on the ability of others trying to help.
I have so many things that trouble me that I am not sure what board I should be writing on. I kind of hit and miss so many I guess depending on how I feel at the time.
I'm a mess. I know it but just cannot see to get my smiley face on. I read other posts that say the first year is the worse. In Feb. one year will have passed since my sister died. I do pray that at least the greving will ease for me. I knew we were close and expecially the last couple of years and then because I took care of her 24/7 the last few months of her life. I was with her nearly every moment. I miss her tremendously. If just this pain would ease up perhaps I could deal with other issues that are tossed at me.
I promise her I'd do my best to keep the family together and this Christmas I would put her Christmas decorations on display just as I had for several years. She ask that I keep her things and display them so the family all could have them at Christmas. It was very important to her that her family spend the holidays together. This year is so different. I cannot honor her requests. I've tried but have not been able to put her things or mine for that matter on dispaly as I have in the past. I have managed to get some things done but the family dinner party has fallen apart. Only one person said they would come. I have been filled with disappointment but I do understand the pain that they are having also. Because one by one they have declined coming I developed what I have thought was a positive attitude and planned a small cookout with my kids and grandkids.
I have been dealt a crushing blow. What I believe is behind my back a family member is having their own family gathering on the same night as mine (tomorrow, Saturday) . I understand and accept that they don't want to come to my house, however why did they plan a party conflicting with mine leaving me to find out through the grapevine. I am a family member and was not invited. Why could they not have planned a party for tonight or Sunday? Or at a minimun just informed me what they planned instead of giving me the excusses for not coming to my home. I'm a reasonable person and even with disaappointment I could have accepted that they are not coming to my home. I feel violated by lack of honesty.
I've been crying for quite awhile now over this and I did address it via email. It is not like me at all to be harsh but I must say I was very to the point about my hurt feelings, almost on the side of being ugly about it.
This is not the time of year for family problems, nor is any time for that matter. I'm trying very hard to just put it behind me and have a wonderful Saturday with my kids and grandkids.
This has been a horrible year for health. Many seriouss health issues have part of this year. The latest is another cancer scare for me. I'm waiting on the biopsy results now. Perhaps if I was in a better emotional state the party behind my back would just bounce off my shoulders.
Where do I belong? I guess on cancer boards, depression boards, and the bereavement board. I also belong with my husband and kids. I must make the best of it all tomorrow and enjoy them.
Merry Christmas to all. I hope the support you get through DS is enough to carry you through the hard times. People have helped me just by caring. Thanks to all for being my friend.
I'm a mess. I know it but just cannot see to get my smiley face on. I read other posts that say the first year is the worse. In Feb. one year will have passed since my sister died. I do pray that at least the greving will ease for me. I knew we were close and expecially the last couple of years and then because I took care of her 24/7 the last few months of her life. I was with her nearly every moment. I miss her tremendously. If just this pain would ease up perhaps I could deal with other issues that are tossed at me.
I promise her I'd do my best to keep the family together and this Christmas I would put her Christmas decorations on display just as I had for several years. She ask that I keep her things and display them so the family all could have them at Christmas. It was very important to her that her family spend the holidays together. This year is so different. I cannot honor her requests. I've tried but have not been able to put her things or mine for that matter on dispaly as I have in the past. I have managed to get some things done but the family dinner party has fallen apart. Only one person said they would come. I have been filled with disappointment but I do understand the pain that they are having also. Because one by one they have declined coming I developed what I have thought was a positive attitude and planned a small cookout with my kids and grandkids.
I have been dealt a crushing blow. What I believe is behind my back a family member is having their own family gathering on the same night as mine (tomorrow, Saturday) . I understand and accept that they don't want to come to my house, however why did they plan a party conflicting with mine leaving me to find out through the grapevine. I am a family member and was not invited. Why could they not have planned a party for tonight or Sunday? Or at a minimun just informed me what they planned instead of giving me the excusses for not coming to my home. I'm a reasonable person and even with disaappointment I could have accepted that they are not coming to my home. I feel violated by lack of honesty.
I've been crying for quite awhile now over this and I did address it via email. It is not like me at all to be harsh but I must say I was very to the point about my hurt feelings, almost on the side of being ugly about it.
This is not the time of year for family problems, nor is any time for that matter. I'm trying very hard to just put it behind me and have a wonderful Saturday with my kids and grandkids.
This has been a horrible year for health. Many seriouss health issues have part of this year. The latest is another cancer scare for me. I'm waiting on the biopsy results now. Perhaps if I was in a better emotional state the party behind my back would just bounce off my shoulders.
Where do I belong? I guess on cancer boards, depression boards, and the bereavement board. I also belong with my husband and kids. I must make the best of it all tomorrow and enjoy them.
Merry Christmas to all. I hope the support you get through DS is enough to carry you through the hard times. People have helped me just by caring. Thanks to all for being my friend.
It talked of positive news. Wonderful! I got my biopsy report and it is negative. I don't have cancer again in the same spot.
Merry Christmas. I'm doing my best and taking the advice of many of you and moving forward with a more positive attitude and focusing on what is right for me and my immediate family.
Happy Holidays to all.