My husband and I have been married 39 years. He has been in a severe depression for the last 4 to 5 years. He also has mobility issues (mostly his making but that is another story!) and stays in bed anywhere from 20 hours a day to all day several times a week. He has been seeing a therapist for 10 years up until recently. He takes heavy duty pain medications and Xanax along with many other meds prescribed by his doctor. I used to beg, cajole, scream, cry and get ugly just to try and get him out of bed to spend some time with me. All I asked for was to get up, have a meal with me and maybe watch TV or a movie together. That did nothing but make him mad and keep him in bed. I only leave the house to go to the grocery store and take him to doctor's appointments. I have finally gotten to the point og giving up. I have succumed to depression as well, cry many times a day and abuse alcohol on occasion. If one more person tells me to stay strong so you will be healthy enough to take care of him I will unload on them. I just don't care anymore. I will be 63 this month and believe my life is truly over. The sad thing is we do not have any money problems so life should be good at this point. We have no children together and he is estranged from his son, who has 2 children we have never met. My days are basically get out of bed, give him his medication, watch TV all day, eat poorly, maybe have a cocktail, take a sleeping pill and go to bed. I don't really expect any advice or sympathy and may never access this site again. Just wanted to put it out there. Thanks for listening.