Ok... I'm just adding in more of what I stated earlier..: one to clear my mind... And two because I know other people have gone through this successfully and maybe one will stumble upon this :)
I realized above I stated that I am staying with him to help him. It sounded wrong, I am not only in this relationship to help him, I mean I have been skipping class and planning days off at work so that we can spend time together.
So to explain more in detail... I am tend to take on his depression. He is upset and I try to hide it overall and stay happy and pull him up with me. But right now I'm just down, and it feels like he is almost mad at me for being sad. He won't talk or plan things with me. I feel like he wants nothing to do with me. I'm taking this all more personally than I should I know that. And I know I'm reading into it way more because I'm sad right now. But... It feels like he's allowed to have difficult times and be sad but I'm not. That's not fair.
So how do I deal with this? He's going to have to talk to me about it some day right?
This is the other thing... I think this might affect him wanting to talk to me... I told him I needed his help. For him to start working and helping around the house. He told me he would (back in July) it's nearly November and nothing has been done. I am very kind about this and about once a week suggest we check out some stuff online and we do but he gets sad and doesn't want to look anymore.
So... I believe he feels responsible for my sadness. So he doesn't want to be reminded of this. I want to be with him that's just plain and simple. But I want him to be my friend and help me when times are tough. Even if it's just a shoulder to cry on an a hug from my love.
Help?

My H is zero help for me when I'm down, (due to the stress of dealing with his D & daily life) I wish he could be more supportive, like he was when we first met , but the way I look at it is this: If you had a broken leg, you wouldn't ask someone who had 2 broken legs to help you walk. I have had to start looking for the support I need from others,(hence joining this group) so I can be in a good place to support him. It's NOT fair, but these are the challenges we are given, so all we can do is to try to overcome them the best we can. & Remember, there IS support out there if you look.

Finnmom,
You're absolutely right! Thank you! I have never reached out to get support from a place like this and already it has helped more than anything! Of course you're right... He has the two broken legs... I need help from people who can listen like other supporters like you guys. Thank you :)
Just to give an update and clear my head...
I called in sick to work today. Everyone knew yesterday was tough for me at work so I've been getting checked on a bunch :)
But my bf and I have been hanging out, we went out to lunch and are just enjoying our company :). He's going back to treating me normally ( I truly think he is scared of me when I'm down). I just can't go to him with these problems and I need to stay connected with other options.
One other situation... The buying him stuff. I have to focus on me. I think that will help me immensely! I give him everything so I'm drained. I need to spend the extra money on me or on us and stop spending on him. We barely make it and I need to be sure he knows this so we don't go broke.
At some point I need him to help financially... I don't know how to make this happen at all. I know it needs to be done and we've discussed it often. But at least If I stop enabling him to be so comfortable making me broke and sad... It will help open his eyes to working.

Ok... I'm trying to stay strong. I'm OUT of money but I have a credit card. He wants a movie... He wants to go "look" at it he says. No biggie. But this is where I give in and just buy it for him. It's easier for tonight but makes me crazy in the long run! I need help with this. Anyone have any ideas? I'm not going to buy it for him. I can't. I won't, I need validation. I'm doing the right thing right?

This morning I woke up and went to my 2 hour yoga class. Then I went off to Walmart to get some errands done. I saw my he called a few min before I got out of yoga so I called him back. He didn't answer... No biggie. I left Walmart to stop at our local market to get groceries and he pulled up right beside me. I smiled and waved, he didn't look happy. I went to his window, his phone died and wouldn't work when he plugged it in either. It was bad, he was angry and sad and I could see he had been crying. I asked if he'd like to go to the cell phone store, he did. They fixed it! :). He was so hyped up and anxious. He gets anxious often, it is extreme his anxiety.
He was upset, he's calming down now we got some food and are chilling out :) this is the type of situation I haven't been able to deal with well lately. I dealt like a champ this morning! :)!!! Yay!!! I know talking on here has helped and going to yoga spending time on me helped.
I am pleased to say I am calm. I am making sure I am happy. And I am trying my best not to be so anal about the clean house. I clean it daily(it's a small studio) he is a slob! He has terrible habits!!! He doesn't clean a thing, he won't even change his clothes when the smell bad (weeks of the same dirty clothes).
I am chilled out just doing what I can. There is no need to panic, I'm just focusing on me. And I have read about many people leaving 'to-do' lists for their unemployed partner. Monday morning I will leave a list. I will try to keep this and me under control! :)
I can do this and this and through the help and support I this site I know I can!
Thank you, I will be here often!