Depression Supporters Support Group
This community is dedicated to spouses, children, relatives, co-workers and others who are actively supporting someone suffering from depression or other serious mental illness. Depression can bring about intense sadness, melancholia or despair that has advanced to the point of being disruptive, which can have a grave impact on the ability of others trying to help.
This morning is rough. My husband started his depression meds two days ago, and although the doctor warned him that they could intensify his emotions for the first month until his body gets used to it, I guess hearing it and actually seeing it are two different things. He told me this morning that this is the worst he has ever felt, then shortly after he left he called me and he had gotten in an accident (no one was hurt), but I know it didn't help with the way he was feeling. He told me he's not sure how much more of this he can take and if he keeps feeling this way he was going to get off the meds. I tried reminding him what the doctor said and he was like "well I'll give it two weeks then." I know I need to stay on him about staying on the meds, but at the same time, I just know how much pain he's been in and apparently will continue to be in before they kick in. It's just hard telling him to just hang in there, hold on a little bit longer when he's in so much pain. And then when he says things like "I don't know how much more I can take" I don't know what to say. I told him that these aren't feelings that will last forever, all of this is momentary and it'll get better and to just keep hanging on, but who knows if those things even help, I feel like they're such generic things to say.
I don't know, I'm just struggling this morning. I'm at work and I'm trying so hard to keep it together. Here I thought I was starting to get used to this and these episodes were getting easier for me to handle, then on days like this it's just so difficult. Anyway... I just needed to get that off my chest. Hope everyone else had a good day.
I don't know, I'm just struggling this morning. I'm at work and I'm trying so hard to keep it together. Here I thought I was starting to get used to this and these episodes were getting easier for me to handle, then on days like this it's just so difficult. Anyway... I just needed to get that off my chest. Hope everyone else had a good day.
I understand... you feel helpless. He feels helpless... It is one of the hardest things ever, trying to hold on while you wait for the meds to start to work. I wish I could send you guys to a nice tropical retreat, where there were no stressors for the next six weeks.
I also understand that these are temporary feelings for him, but when you are in it, you feel like it will be forever. He feels like the pain will be forever. WIth mine I did start to see very slight improvement after two weeks, so hopefully that will be enough... he will get through the two weeks he said he will give it, he will start to have a few good hours and he will see that it is starting to get better. By four weeks, he will be almost there, by six he will be feeling better and better.
I'm sorry, I wish I could really give you a big hug! I am sending one and thinking of you.
Come back again today, I will check in and see how you are doing.
Yeah you're right, I know this is only temporary, but at the same time I feel like we've been going through this for forever even though i know the worst of it has only been two months. I really hope that he'll start to see a slight improvement soon just enough to give him a little bit of hope. I also wish the anxiety meds would work too because that seems to be the most physical part of it for him.
I'm doing a little bit better I guess. I had to run to the employee bathroom earlier and have a little cry and that helped some. I still feel a little raw and wounded right now but it is what it is. One foot in front of the other I guess. :)
Yes... one foot in front of the other, one day at a time... moving forward.
I hope today brings about smiles and happiness for you! I am so sorry to hear he is having such a difficult time. It is odd because at times that he tells me that it is just too much and he can't take any more I at least feel like he is communicating with me and i try to be grateful for that. Just think of those times of silence... those are the worst to me. I so strongly fear what is going on in his mind at those times.
I have not gone through the meds whatsoever... mine is totally against taking them so we don't go there. But I know that feeling of helplessness. And that feeling of seeing helplessness on the face of your love! These times are so difficult... I am truly sorry that I cannot do anything to ease the pain.
Just know we are here for you and you are not alone ever!
And welcome back!