Depression Supporters Support Group

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Timing...

brownielove
brownielove
How the heck am I suppose to judge timing with this man!!!
He wanted my sister over for dinner to celebrate her college graduation!! I thought that was so sweet :). How kind of him :)
He asked me about her and I said she's doing well- she just got accepted for her internship. She's applied to a bunch and ive been so scared to tell him she got accepted yesterday!! But he asked so I just told him. She wa accepted- its about 30 min from the mountain town he wants to live in. He is SO jealous right now!!! He's playing it off kindly but he said its ruined. We can't live there- what?! It's a 3 month internship- she will move away from there.
I just can't deal with his moods tonight and I'm trying so hard I promise!!! He just gets too mad and sad and argh....
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sometimes I have found it is best to leave them alone when they get that way. It is not your responsibility - nor is it usually possible - to break a mood like that.

Take a break for yourself. Indulge in something to relax yourself.

That's my advice anyway.

That said, I am wishing you well. Take care!
brownielove
brownielove
Thank you!! I am going to try my best to enjoy today and have a good time and tonight have a great time with him too :)
Hmmm.... I do just have to step back sometimes but it can be so hard
Newlywed616
Newlywed616
It is hard to step back, I get pulled in often myself.

I am glad you have plans today. He will come around. Right now is a tough time for him. When he is feeling a bit better he will be more rational and he will realize she is there temporarily.

Have fun today Brownie!
Ski23
Ski23
I agree with everyone else. Ignore the mood and negative comments. Don't argue or play into his mood. It probably won't do any good and you'll just get more upset. I learned with mine that when he gets irrational, it's just the depression talking. Sometimes he even comes to his own conclusion that he overreacted if I leave him alone with his thoughts long enough.
Have fun tonight :)
brownielove
brownielove
You guys are right- I have been so good at ignoring these freak outs of his lately- last night I just couldn't handle it. But I had fun today. Now we are watching baseball and enjoying our evening... He is better somewhat and will continue to get better :)
Thank you all!