Depression Supporters Support Group

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Not so happy anniversary....

mrspigglewiggle
mrspigglewiggle

Tomorrow is my fifth wedding anniversary, and I’ve never felt more disconnected from my husband. He is so deep in his depression that he probably won’t even acknowledge our special day. I feel sad, lonely, and disappointed in the way our life together is evolving. Think I’ll buy myself something pretty to pick up my spirits, and pray he decides to get help. 

brownielove
brownielove
How did your day turn out? We celebrated 9 years two weekends ago... it is hard for them to deal with those days. I almost wish there weren’t holidays because that would take away all the anxiety they have built up around them haha!

Update when you can, I’m listening!
mrspigglewiggle
mrspigglewiggle
You are so right about that! The day went better than expected. After a silent morning (since he was asleep) I was surprised with a bouquet of roses delivered to my work. We had a really nice weekend together and some of the cloud seemed to lift for a bit. I just hate knowing that it’s going to settle back in again soon. Thanks so much for listening!
ducksfeet
ducksfeet
' I almost wish there weren’t holidays' totally.
They are the hardest times. And I used to love Christmas. Now I just do it for the kids and try to ignore his huffing and puffing about the decorations. It's very difficult.
brownielove
brownielove
Oh Mrs pigglewiggle... I’m so glad it turned out well :) how nice! I know what you mean... that looming cloud. I find myself struggling so often when things are good because I am so on guard waiting for the cloud to come back! I try not to... but I also know it will come back and this is my way of handling... so I don’t know if it’s necessarily bad... but it is that way.
And ducksfeet... so glad I’m not alone. No kids for us but we do holidays for the family. I too loved Christmas, it seems to get worse yearly too which I really struggle with...