Depression Supporters Support Group
This community is dedicated to spouses, children, relatives, co-workers and others who are actively supporting someone suffering from depression or other serious mental illness. Depression can bring about intense sadness, melancholia or despair that has advanced to the point of being disruptive, which can have a grave impact on the ability of others trying to help.
Hi everyone!
I am in such a state of total mediocrity. Since the return of our trip, almost a week ago, he has been slowly going down.
We had an AMAZING time! I did what he wanted and that meant relaxing and enjoying the beautiful view of the ocean! We went on a hike and we went sailing and swimming. It was great! He loved it so much more than I expected him too which was so great for me because it showed me he is up for having a REALLY good time! That was the most adventurous I've ever seen him so I thought he'd never do things like that with me. It was nice :)
So coming back was difficult... for me too! Off I went to work and daily life so I jumped right back in. But that leaves him home alone with not a whole lot to do, or at least that he wants to do. So he's been falling down.
Plus.. it reminded him of all that happened with my dad before we left for the vacation. So now I'm nonchalantly looking for work anywhere and everywhere and I figure I will apply and try to go somewhere that will give him separation from family but still be a good place for us. There are many places we love so that is not the problem... the stress of moving and finding work and a home is the problem. As you know our depressed partners don't deal well with this much going on.
And I'm not really sure what to do with him. I want to cheer him up but I don't know how. He's talked of starting work and maybe working online and it's definitely a daily topic now and I think it would be great for him to do something he enjoys and bring in some money so he feels better. We've talked about moving but he says he was actually getting comfortable with the idea of staying here in my hometown and doesn't want to think of having to move but doesn't want to be near my dad now. All understandable... but it just is contradictory when you put those two scenarios together.
So.. what to do? He is not angry, just sad. He cried himself to sleep about an hour ago and I layed in bed with him just being there... he will get up soon for the first baseball game of the year which is nice and should cheer him up big time! :)
Theres just a lot of questions and no answers. I am okay.. like I say since he isn't all the way down I am trying my best to pull him up and enjoy our time together. We went to the beach yesterday and then went and got some lunch and came home. After that my sister came over for dinner and a game... it was nice :) He was good... but he is just sad. I'm just wanting to get it all off my chest really. I am looking for jobs right after I click submit and I figure I'll just apply my heart out for everything that looks good and if I get anything we'll take it from there. :)
It's just overwhelming at times... but things are good. I've seen the bad so I'm definitely not complaining... just releasing all my thoughts for some stress reduction :)
Thank you to all of you :)
I am in such a state of total mediocrity. Since the return of our trip, almost a week ago, he has been slowly going down.
We had an AMAZING time! I did what he wanted and that meant relaxing and enjoying the beautiful view of the ocean! We went on a hike and we went sailing and swimming. It was great! He loved it so much more than I expected him too which was so great for me because it showed me he is up for having a REALLY good time! That was the most adventurous I've ever seen him so I thought he'd never do things like that with me. It was nice :)
So coming back was difficult... for me too! Off I went to work and daily life so I jumped right back in. But that leaves him home alone with not a whole lot to do, or at least that he wants to do. So he's been falling down.
Plus.. it reminded him of all that happened with my dad before we left for the vacation. So now I'm nonchalantly looking for work anywhere and everywhere and I figure I will apply and try to go somewhere that will give him separation from family but still be a good place for us. There are many places we love so that is not the problem... the stress of moving and finding work and a home is the problem. As you know our depressed partners don't deal well with this much going on.
And I'm not really sure what to do with him. I want to cheer him up but I don't know how. He's talked of starting work and maybe working online and it's definitely a daily topic now and I think it would be great for him to do something he enjoys and bring in some money so he feels better. We've talked about moving but he says he was actually getting comfortable with the idea of staying here in my hometown and doesn't want to think of having to move but doesn't want to be near my dad now. All understandable... but it just is contradictory when you put those two scenarios together.
So.. what to do? He is not angry, just sad. He cried himself to sleep about an hour ago and I layed in bed with him just being there... he will get up soon for the first baseball game of the year which is nice and should cheer him up big time! :)
Theres just a lot of questions and no answers. I am okay.. like I say since he isn't all the way down I am trying my best to pull him up and enjoy our time together. We went to the beach yesterday and then went and got some lunch and came home. After that my sister came over for dinner and a game... it was nice :) He was good... but he is just sad. I'm just wanting to get it all off my chest really. I am looking for jobs right after I click submit and I figure I'll just apply my heart out for everything that looks good and if I get anything we'll take it from there. :)
It's just overwhelming at times... but things are good. I've seen the bad so I'm definitely not complaining... just releasing all my thoughts for some stress reduction :)
Thank you to all of you :)
I hope that he finds a job soon. I think that might help. I know during the week mine is so much better when he has his work to focus on.
(((HUG)))
It really sounds like you're doing everything you can do right now and are being soooo supportive of him and giving him what he needs. But it sounds like you both have a lot going on right now so it's understandable that you feel overwhelm. Just keep being positive like you have been and hang in there. Good luck on the job hunt!
honestly... I love him. He is wonderful and so sweet! And I would do anything to help him be happy- regardless of how much work I had to put into it.
It's just sometimes... don't you wish Jimany Cricket would pop on your shoulder and tell you what to do?
If someone could tell me what path to take I would do all the work on it and be so diligent... I just want to ensure it's the right one so I keep a limb on each path trying to not close off any path hahaha...
He was down today. Just blah... not mean just nothing. I don't like when he starts to get quiet and distant. He's been better since I got home but he was not in any mood to talk when I left work at all. I hope he was just focused on baseball or something fun :)
So... Brownie, did he enjoy the B-ball game? Hopefully his team won and he was in a good mood when you got home from work!
Are you applying for jobs away from you parents? I hope you find something that will make you happy, both of you.