Depression Supporters Support Group
This community is dedicated to spouses, children, relatives, co-workers and others who are actively supporting someone suffering from depression or other serious mental illness. Depression can bring about intense sadness, melancholia or despair that has advanced to the point of being disruptive, which can have a grave impact on the ability of others trying to help.
I don't know where to turn. My husband and I both sugger from depression and anxiety.
We both are medical disabled. From degenative disc disease and sciatica.
Anyway, he became depressed when he was forced to stop working 4 years ago. I was claimed disabled 7 years ago. I was depressed severely too when it first happen, but I managed to pull my self out. I still have depression, some days worse than others.
But my husband fells into depression and it just doesn't seem no light at the end of the tunnel.
He started with Paxil 20 mg. and buspar.
Within one year increase to 40 mg.
In a situation be on my control, prescription ran out of refills a month ago.
He became very depressed again, irritated, very arguementive. I could do nothing right. Only argues with me, not the rest of housemates. He sleeps 10-12 hours a day. The time he is awake he does nothing but sit in a chair in the living room and play with his phone. And denies that he is depressed. He is back on his Paxil as of today.
This has play a big hardship and drain of our marriage. He refuses counseling.
It gets so bad. I hide in my room in my free time. Because every time I try to talk to him. He twists everything.
We both are medical disabled. From degenative disc disease and sciatica.
Anyway, he became depressed when he was forced to stop working 4 years ago. I was claimed disabled 7 years ago. I was depressed severely too when it first happen, but I managed to pull my self out. I still have depression, some days worse than others.
But my husband fells into depression and it just doesn't seem no light at the end of the tunnel.
He started with Paxil 20 mg. and buspar.
Within one year increase to 40 mg.
In a situation be on my control, prescription ran out of refills a month ago.
He became very depressed again, irritated, very arguementive. I could do nothing right. Only argues with me, not the rest of housemates. He sleeps 10-12 hours a day. The time he is awake he does nothing but sit in a chair in the living room and play with his phone. And denies that he is depressed. He is back on his Paxil as of today.
This has play a big hardship and drain of our marriage. He refuses counseling.
It gets so bad. I hide in my room in my free time. Because every time I try to talk to him. He twists everything.
I'm sorry you're going through this. It sounds like first and foremost you should step away from his depression. How you sound now is how I felt when I joined this group. I have learned to take care of me from the many wonderful people here. It turns out if you can't take care of yourself you can't be a great supporter and then it's hard to not become depressed like they do.
Take care of yourself. Start doing things for you... Happiness is contagious and he will start catching it from you :). I am not saying it becomes easy but at least I am happy and can deal better :). You will be glad.
Also... Keep coming here and venting! It helps so much to get it off your chest. This site has been wonderful for me :). Welcome :)