Depression Supporters Support Group

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I don't know what to say or do

cheyenneftw
cheyenneftw
My mom is really depressed lately. the cause of this is family problems. Lately she has been talking about killing herself, she just doesn't want to do it because me and my sisters. But I worry alot because i'm scared one day it will be too much and she might off herself. I don't know what to say or do anymore
brownielove
brownielove
Hello,
First off I am so sorry you're going through this. But you're not alone and the good news is they say if the person talks of suicide..: they're less likely to act on it.
I am putting a link here to an old post of mine and amazing advice I received from Bpdistough. He used to be on here and share a lot of experiences, not only was he a depression supporter but also was once a supported depressed person.

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Depression_Supporters/advice/16536570-any-ideas

The advice here is wonderful and reassuring.
Please come here for peace of mind, I promise it helps. We will hear from you soon :)
creer
creer
I would encourage you to speak with a therapist about creating a safety plan for your mom. Worst case scenario would be she successfully completes a suicide, but even if she is not to the action phase, she still deserves to feel like life can be enjoyable and worth living, and a therapist could help her find that path. You may also need support, because having a mom who is sick with depression can cause depression for you! You can model good self-care for your mom during this difficult time. Invite her to do fun things, and don't take no for an answer. Make a point to bring by easy to reheat, healthy foods. Education yourself on signs of potential suicide, such as her isolating herself, her suddenly presenting as at peace, or her giving her items away. This is where have a professional safety plan in place is priceless. I wish you the best of luck!