Depression Supporters Support Group
This community is dedicated to spouses, children, relatives, co-workers and others who are actively supporting someone suffering from depression or other serious mental illness. Depression can bring about intense sadness, melancholia or despair that has advanced to the point of being disruptive, which can have a grave impact on the ability of others trying to help.
Ever since me and my boyfriend first met, I saw him giving me the fairy tale love that I always dreamed of. He gave me this in so many wonderful ways. About three to four years ago, his best friend slowly became an suicidal alcoholic. It got to the point where we had to cut him out of our lives. This was devastating to my boyfriend. A little while after that I was diagnosed with hip dysplasia and needed an invasive surgery that required tons of mental and physical exhaustion for a very long time. These two huge things happening as well as an extremely intense college degree, triggered my boyfriend's depression and anxiety. He has been struggling with his depression for about 1 1/2 years now. And as a result, so have I. It wears me down at times where I can't believe this could be happening and I wish I could just make it all stop. But one thing that always gets me through it are the times where he breaks through the stress and shows me the wonderful person he truly is.
As with all fairy tales, there are hard times which put the couple through excruciating circumstances in order to find a stronger and more fulfilling relationship. What helps me through the dark times of his depression are the days of light. I hold on to the good moments and try to tell myself that these struggles will only make our love stronger. And it has. After dealing with this day in and day out, through every fluctuation in his emotions, I can see how strong our love has become.
I usually come on this website when I'm having a day where I need to vent because I'm completely overwhelmed and don't know what to do. Today, I decided to change that and talk about what I do to get me through it. I found that focusing on all the positives helps me realize that I wouldn't appreciate those good times as much without going through these tough times. I always try flip the situation into something good and that helps me realize that we still have our fairy tale love. This is just the time in the story where we are becoming stronger.
As with all fairy tales, there are hard times which put the couple through excruciating circumstances in order to find a stronger and more fulfilling relationship. What helps me through the dark times of his depression are the days of light. I hold on to the good moments and try to tell myself that these struggles will only make our love stronger. And it has. After dealing with this day in and day out, through every fluctuation in his emotions, I can see how strong our love has become.
I usually come on this website when I'm having a day where I need to vent because I'm completely overwhelmed and don't know what to do. Today, I decided to change that and talk about what I do to get me through it. I found that focusing on all the positives helps me realize that I wouldn't appreciate those good times as much without going through these tough times. I always try flip the situation into something good and that helps me realize that we still have our fairy tale love. This is just the time in the story where we are becoming stronger.
Despite the really rough times we've stuck it out. He's the most supportive person I have ever known in encouraging me to be my best, but he's almost never there in person to share it.
I can't talk about it to any of my family or friends despite the fact some of them have dealt with similar issues. They just tell me to find someone worthy. For them they can't understand that this person who accepts all of my quirks is important enough for me to cope with the down times. He stood by me while i had a complete nervous breakdown.
We are a stronger couple for dealing with this, together. Thank you for reminding me i'm not alone.
I hope things are going well for you these days :) I agree with you... the positives are a great place to put our focus! It helps me I know... big time! I am glad to here from you. I am going to search for my fairy tale love each time it is a bad moment :) I will happily think of you and send a little thank you into the universe to you for creating this idea :) my fairy tale love... it is there... just hidden sometimes :)
Brownielove, I thank you back! You are always such a support during the hard times! This is the last semester for my bf so I'm hoping it's the last of these everyday melt downs. However we are in the heart of the semester and that means the meltdowns are more frequent. This time around I've actually been pulling away and letting him deal with it. Not to be mean, but to help him develop the coping mechanisms to deal with it on his own. So far with a little help, it's been working! Even though the meltdowns keep coming, they don't last add long or get nearly as bad. How have you been?
Neil Gaiman
What a PERFECT quote for this thread!