Depression Supporters Support Group
This community is dedicated to spouses, children, relatives, co-workers and others who are actively supporting someone suffering from depression or other serious mental illness. Depression can bring about intense sadness, melancholia or despair that has advanced to the point of being disruptive, which can have a grave impact on the ability of others trying to help.
my mom has been depressed for a while but it keeps getting worse. she's going blind and she doesn't take care of herself. she;s overweight so she doesn;t eat because she wants to lose weight...so now she's working out. she goes on the treadmill to walk, and her heart rate gets up to 180 when the max she should be at is 168, and that's for really hard work outs.
i'm worried she's going to die, but she doesn;t care at all. she never wants to do anything. she doesn;t even like my singing like she used to. everyday she comes home and barely says hi to me, just goes in her room. she's rude to me a lot...i want to just not care about this because she wasn't really there for me when i needed her, but i can't help it. she's my mom. i feel like her mother right now, though.
what's the best way to help her without putting extra stress on me?
i'm worried she's going to die, but she doesn;t care at all. she never wants to do anything. she doesn;t even like my singing like she used to. everyday she comes home and barely says hi to me, just goes in her room. she's rude to me a lot...i want to just not care about this because she wasn't really there for me when i needed her, but i can't help it. she's my mom. i feel like her mother right now, though.
what's the best way to help her without putting extra stress on me?
Of course you are concerned. If she wasn't there for you maybe it was because she was depressed then also. Sometimes people just get screwed up and need help. You would always feel guilty if you didn't help her. She's your Mother and I know you love her or you wouldn't have asked for help.
Keep us posted. She needs medicine to get her out of depression, Depression runs in families.
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I also don't agree with having them come by unannounced either. Sometimes that may create discomfort between the 2 parties and that isn't wanted at this point. Maybe inviting them over for shorter periods of time and moving into longer visits.