Depression Supporters Support Group
This community is dedicated to spouses, children, relatives, co-workers and others who are actively supporting someone suffering from depression or other serious mental illness. Depression can bring about intense sadness, melancholia or despair that has advanced to the point of being disruptive, which can have a grave impact on the ability of others trying to help.
Dear Dailystrength Community.
I have a very good friend who is having the hardest time right now. She is on the brink of dropping out of university, even though she only have one semester left (which is an internship semester). She cannot move on from her past relationship, which lasted 10 months.. and ended over two years ago now. Her brother and twin sister want nothing to do with her, even though she cares for them immensely. She tells her parents, but they don't help out. She feels she is stupid at school and is showing the signs of exercise addiction.
I spent last night trying my best to comfort her. She is in a group of friends with me, and two of us girls have just entered in relationships, so she feels like a 5th wheeler. I hate seeing her like this, and I want to help out any way.
If anyone has any advice for me, I would really appreciate it. She already goes to a shrink, and is trying antidepressent alternatives. I cannot relate to her family situation, since I am able to tell my parents everything and I get support in return. How can parents and siblings be so uncaring to someone who has such a big heart?
She hasn't had a real group of friends until now, and in the summer I may move to a different country, and I am not sure about the others. I want to leave her happy, full of confidence and be able to make new friends easily. I care so much for her, but I don't know what I can do.
I have a very good friend who is having the hardest time right now. She is on the brink of dropping out of university, even though she only have one semester left (which is an internship semester). She cannot move on from her past relationship, which lasted 10 months.. and ended over two years ago now. Her brother and twin sister want nothing to do with her, even though she cares for them immensely. She tells her parents, but they don't help out. She feels she is stupid at school and is showing the signs of exercise addiction.
I spent last night trying my best to comfort her. She is in a group of friends with me, and two of us girls have just entered in relationships, so she feels like a 5th wheeler. I hate seeing her like this, and I want to help out any way.
If anyone has any advice for me, I would really appreciate it. She already goes to a shrink, and is trying antidepressent alternatives. I cannot relate to her family situation, since I am able to tell my parents everything and I get support in return. How can parents and siblings be so uncaring to someone who has such a big heart?
She hasn't had a real group of friends until now, and in the summer I may move to a different country, and I am not sure about the others. I want to leave her happy, full of confidence and be able to make new friends easily. I care so much for her, but I don't know what I can do.
Are you getting together for girl time, not inviting her to hang out with you and your friends' significant others? If I was a lone party with couples, I would feel like a 5th wheel too, anyone would. SO will come and go; keep social with your girl friends.
She should not only be going to a "shrink" but also to a therapist to talk things out. Usually psychiatrists will manage medication, but little else.
You can only do so much; the rest is up to her. Whether she flies or not is not your responsibility. I would encourage her to join social groups at school and stay active.
We have a movie night planned for next week. I am not sure if it is a shrink she goes to or what, since she says "I have an appointment with my doctor..." and I know it isn't just any doctor.
My recommendation is to first have her speak with her family. Perhaps family counseling? Even some sort of intervention so that they know she needs them. Friends are of course great but to feel unimportant by family I can't even imagine.
Second talk talk talk! Even if she does not necessarily want to talk about her feelings all the time, letting her know you are there is huge. Even asking her every once in a while... is everything okay? How are you? Just to let her know she always has you to count on!
Your a great friend for reaching out. Keep being positive with her and I am sure she will too get out of this funk :)
Most of us in the group are concerned and we let her talk to each of us, about her problems or not. So we are all informed and she gets to anyone she feels. I am happy I am not the only one she is speaking with, but I think we need to do something!
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