Depression Supporters Support Group
This community is dedicated to spouses, children, relatives, co-workers and others who are actively supporting someone suffering from depression or other serious mental illness. Depression can bring about intense sadness, melancholia or despair that has advanced to the point of being disruptive, which can have a grave impact on the ability of others trying to help.
Oh I am so annoyed with social anxiety. So today we were supposed to go to a wedding of a coworker. All week this has been an "issue" for him. He finally worked himself into a full blown panic attack and freak out about being a "trophy husband" and how uncomfortable these work things are for him.
Ok - come ON he has met these people many times before the past few years. Many of them he would like a lot if he would just give pople a chance. needless to say, I caved and we did NOT go. I am kind of peeved he manipulated me into that but at the same time, I am also tired of going to things alone and explaining that he could not handle it. (yes my team at work is aware my husband has mental issues - kind of hard to hide sometimes and just easier to be honest about it - we are a tight team with a lot of responsibility so we are all pretty open about our personal lives too as the line between work and home is very blury in my job)
The only silver lining is that it was an outdoor wedding and it poured all morning, then got super muggy all evening, it was a 60 mile drive each way, and Its between pay periods so the gift $$ would have put us in a danger zone for $$ till payday.
Ok - come ON he has met these people many times before the past few years. Many of them he would like a lot if he would just give pople a chance. needless to say, I caved and we did NOT go. I am kind of peeved he manipulated me into that but at the same time, I am also tired of going to things alone and explaining that he could not handle it. (yes my team at work is aware my husband has mental issues - kind of hard to hide sometimes and just easier to be honest about it - we are a tight team with a lot of responsibility so we are all pretty open about our personal lives too as the line between work and home is very blury in my job)
The only silver lining is that it was an outdoor wedding and it poured all morning, then got super muggy all evening, it was a 60 mile drive each way, and Its between pay periods so the gift $$ would have put us in a danger zone for $$ till payday.
I have more to add... but I have to run right now... I will add soon ;)
Then go out and make your own friends for us to get to know! I was telling him of a newer friend I have made over the past few months. She is very nice and doesn't have many friends. He is BEGGING me to invite her over. It's a lot of pressure on me! What am I suppose to do? Just try to make friends for him?
On the bright side him wanting her to come over is a plus but he goes through this phase a couple times a year and then it turns out poorly overall.
His social anxiety goes different in his hometown. The friends he has there he has had forever and there it is more the situation he is put uh not the people. But he just gives everyone and everything more of a chance there... He's admitted it himself.
One last thing, mine too talks of being a "trophy husband". I never wanted to be the only provider. I never wanted that at all. So my goodness... If you don't like it then don't be it. Ugh. Like I've said before, I love him dearly and I know you love yours. It is hard because they mean the world to us and yet they can't be happy with just that. And when things are good, there's no way they could be better or I could be happier. But when things are bad... You know.