Depression Supporters Support Group
This community is dedicated to spouses, children, relatives, co-workers and others who are actively supporting someone suffering from depression or other serious mental illness. Depression can bring about intense sadness, melancholia or despair that has advanced to the point of being disruptive, which can have a grave impact on the ability of others trying to help.
Hello to my dear friends :)
I wish I could send you all flowers and chocolates and take you all on a nice cruise with lots of pools and sunshine and good food! :)
But... I can say thank you for being truly an amazing group of people. Honestly, I feel truly honored to be in your "presence" here on this board. I feel I have made lifelong friends here on this board and I look forward to seeing where our futures head and keeping in touch throughout them :)
So...
We moved... we are homeless haha. :) In a sense :)
We moved into storage and drove out to his hometown and are staying with his family for right now. My job has summers off (can you guess what I do? ;) So we have a full month out here.
Lots of emotions have been playing out with everything but I feel good. I still stress about various situations and possibilities but oh well... normal life type stress :) I am looking for work and if/when I get it we will compare it to my job in my hometown. He will go back to his job out here if we stay here. If we go back to my hometown we will move into a slightly bigger apartment and simply have more space for our "stuff."
I don't know which one I want to happen honestly. I am excited and terrified for the change and I think he is too. In my town we are so alone that everything we do is for us together all the time. And every so often we gather with other people and do things- but we are together all the time him and I.
Here in his town... he has a TON of family and friend gatherings all the time! I LOVE that! But I LOVE our alone time too! I don't know how it'll go if we are out here... neither does he.
So.. we will discuss it all and decide.
You guys are right... I need to watch out for me so I can take care of me and then have enough emotional fortitude to take care of him too and provide support for him.
Him and I are well though... that is what matters :) This decision will be tough to make but we are in love and want to be together- that is what we have truly decided and what is most important to us. :) That makes me happy and him too :)
I don't know the answer but I guess that is part of life.
There are big pros to both sides. And honestly- not too many cons really, just which pros do we prefer? :)
There are so many I won't go into explaining them all but I just wanted to update you and tell you I am currently settled and able to come back online and chat :)
In about a month I should be getting settled into a new apartment, wherever that may be. And I will update you all and tell you all the details. Thank you again for being truly an amazing group of people whom I wouldn't trade for the world :)
I wish I could send you all flowers and chocolates and take you all on a nice cruise with lots of pools and sunshine and good food! :)
But... I can say thank you for being truly an amazing group of people. Honestly, I feel truly honored to be in your "presence" here on this board. I feel I have made lifelong friends here on this board and I look forward to seeing where our futures head and keeping in touch throughout them :)
So...
We moved... we are homeless haha. :) In a sense :)
We moved into storage and drove out to his hometown and are staying with his family for right now. My job has summers off (can you guess what I do? ;) So we have a full month out here.
Lots of emotions have been playing out with everything but I feel good. I still stress about various situations and possibilities but oh well... normal life type stress :) I am looking for work and if/when I get it we will compare it to my job in my hometown. He will go back to his job out here if we stay here. If we go back to my hometown we will move into a slightly bigger apartment and simply have more space for our "stuff."
I don't know which one I want to happen honestly. I am excited and terrified for the change and I think he is too. In my town we are so alone that everything we do is for us together all the time. And every so often we gather with other people and do things- but we are together all the time him and I.
Here in his town... he has a TON of family and friend gatherings all the time! I LOVE that! But I LOVE our alone time too! I don't know how it'll go if we are out here... neither does he.
So.. we will discuss it all and decide.
You guys are right... I need to watch out for me so I can take care of me and then have enough emotional fortitude to take care of him too and provide support for him.
Him and I are well though... that is what matters :) This decision will be tough to make but we are in love and want to be together- that is what we have truly decided and what is most important to us. :) That makes me happy and him too :)
I don't know the answer but I guess that is part of life.
There are big pros to both sides. And honestly- not too many cons really, just which pros do we prefer? :)
There are so many I won't go into explaining them all but I just wanted to update you and tell you I am currently settled and able to come back online and chat :)
In about a month I should be getting settled into a new apartment, wherever that may be. And I will update you all and tell you all the details. Thank you again for being truly an amazing group of people whom I wouldn't trade for the world :)
Keep us updated! :)
You guys all gave me such wonderful advice and told me that things would be fine. And I have to be able to take care of me and be happy with our situation in order to help him. :)
Thank you so much for your support and everything :)
It sounds like it is going well.
I really like the plan you have in place right now...able to explore the options without committing right away...great solution!
Sorry so short. Super tired today after a few days of a heavy fibro flare.
Take care!
Thank you for the update!!!
I still am not sure what is happening- we are just weighing our options and trying to make the right decision. But throughout this and through your support I have truly realized that I must remain strong no matter what. And that whatever I need to do to stay strong for the two of us is what I need to do. So I have been doing lots of me time and soul searching throughout all this :)
Thank you again :)
Hugs to each of you!!