Depression Supporters Support Group

This community is dedicated to spouses, children, relatives, co-workers and others who are actively supporting someone suffering from depression or other serious mental illness. Depression can bring about intense sadness, melancholia or despair that has advanced to the point of being disruptive, which can have a grave impact on the ability of others trying to help.

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brownielove
brownielove
Seriously! I just posted about this walk and I left a wonderfully attentive man who was content and loving. I came back and he is seriously a whole different person!!! I can't handle this massive mood switch!! I am so grateful for the wonderful days we had... They recharge my batteries but going back to this old person is SO hard!!! It makes me so sad! I start to get my hopes up and then they die. I just am so sad about this I can't handle it! I've had all week off for the holiday. I go back tomorrow. When we are together he mellows out and becomes happier. Me going back tomorrow kills this! I have to work... I wish we could own a small business together.
I just can't describe the down fall my heart has just taken tonight. He's stressed about a few upcoming events and trips... I know this it's no surprise but he's letting it take over! Had I been here and not out I could have helped talk him away from the hole he's fallen into.
He's playing his video game... This is the worst! When he's like this and he's playing his game... It cheats so he can't win. Stuff gets thrown and broken. There's a lot of cursing going on.
Our last couple days were wonderful!!!! I hate to see it end. I hate where this is going. If he could just not be so angry... I know you all think that.
These are just the most difficult times for me.
I wouldn't give up the past few days for anything! But it's hard to come back out of again, and just to know its the beginning of a new round of angry man.. I just can't take it in my heart.
I just love this man and wish I could make our life easier and happy all the time. I'm trying to not send my sadness to him... It's not worth it it stresses him out.
Please help him at least calm tonight.
I know what would help is if we go get food and just sit and watch tv and eat yummy food! Unfortunately we've been strictly dieting! Argh. Its tempting to go for it... I just want peace
mlb8
mlb8
Gosh do I know those moods!! What has worked for me was talking to him when he's in a good mood. I told him that he really can't be throwing things and breaking stuff. I told him if he needs to get stress out that way to hit the bed or the pillow. Something that won't break. He actually listened! The next time he got really angry he just threw paper or things that wouldn't break like pillows. I don't know what calms yours down but I rub his back and scratch his head which helps soothe him and calm down when he's in these particular "angry" moods (Only if he lets me though). Tell him it's ok to be angry but its not ok to take it out on household objects! haha. Just make sure to have this conversation when he's in a good mood and be respectful to his emotions. I'm sure he doesn't want to feel that way as much as you don't want him too. Hope that helps!
brownielove
brownielove
Thank you :)
It's so hard to handle this. I got such a good boost of encouragement over the last few days. Especially because thanksgiving was difficult but we made it through very well! One I the best bad moods ever! And he came right out of it! So we had a marvelous time! That has boosted me, I can deal right now but I hope he comes around soon... This is extremely hard!
I truly believe if I could be home with him and we could be ok and live well in a smaller town working together... It would be great! He needs a person to calm him and i am that person... Last week went well with me here to help. Now I have 3 weeks of insanity schedule followed by a week of traveling for the holidays... I don't now how to help him. I want to do badly!