I think your obligation is to your son (and yourself). He needs a safe healthy environment to grow and flourish in. All that negativity could wreak havoc on him later in life.

You've obviously tried to make things work, but sometimes you just can't. It might be time to put you and your child first.

You have a right to happiness and if your husband, try as he might, refuses to get the kind of help he truly needs, then there's not a lot you can do except get yourself out of that situation.

If you're at the burnout point, you could end up causing more damage to the relationship and making things even harder for your son.

If you're hesitant to take drastic action, or don't feel it's necessary at the moment, a trial separation could be a good option.

Either way, my heart goes out to you, I hope things work out for the best.

how are you frauS?
I give you endless kudos for watching out for your son and you this is so hard. Probably much like your husband, my boyfriend is a good man. But he too has a sick twisted view of the world. Everyone is evil and he is paranoid and he just is unreasonable at times. The other night he was yelling so loudly at the TV that I was nervous for the neighbors to hear him

How old is your son? How have you been? Any decisions made?

You have to take care of yourself and your son. As someone who has suffered from depression for 13 years, I know first hand you have to do everything to get better. That means medication (taking it regularly) and counseling (going frequently). If your husband is not doing these things, it is not your responsibility or moral obligation. I'm also a Christian and I don't believe that Jesus would expect you to sacrifice the welfare of your child if your husband is just going through life not trying to do anything about his "condition". Tell him that although you support him, you won't do it alone, it's his responsibility. Hugs to you and your son.

Dont be judgmental in your own thought and own instinct ...anyway you are married for 15 years and had a son and husband who at least try to make things happen.. You are just worried because he dont have patience . just talk to him about this .. at least you can try for your son.. and Hope things will get better .. one day .. Good Luck!!!

I know how you feel. I have been with my husband 10 years. He has episodes where he is paranoid too. Its frustrating. I too am at the point of deciding if it is healthier for myself and my youngest child to go or stay. A decision no one should have to make. Suffering from burnout makes things even more difficult. It makes me indecisive some days. I hope things improve in your situation soon.

Hello, I empathize with you as I have two daughters who are effected by my husband's depression. He constantly overanalyzes everything and feels so wounded by their normal teenage reactions to him.

I think you're right and a good mom for wanting to put your son first, after all, it's the children who need to be taken care of, not the adults! Certainly we all need support, including your husband, but your son needs to be brought up in an environment where he will learn to see the world through a positive lens. I hope all is well and that you've been able to figure this whole thing out.

My boyfriend is also paranoid and adds the most twisted interpretations in most things I say. It seems I spend the my days walking on eggshells. Its been exhausting. I even was naive enough to try and rationalize this, but it has come in vain.

My advice for your is to focus on your son, in order to prevent problems with his mental health in the future.