Dementia Support Group

Dementia is the progressive decline in cognitive function due to damage or disease in the brain beyond what might be expected from normal aging. Particularly affected areas may be memory, attention, language and problem solving, although particularly in the later stages of the condition, affected persons may be disoriented in time, place and person (not knowing who they...

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me98 12/20/2017

I am 34 years old and I was diagnosed September 25th of this year with Vascular Dementia. I've been married for a year and a half. My wonderful caring husband got one day of peace and then I noticed a change. I noticed right away that something was different with me. I started dropping things and falling and getting dizzy and not being able to control my anger and my emotions and memory.

I am trying to stay positive but my husband cries in the mornings.. I hear him in the living room .. he thinks I am asleep, but I hear him. I can't get too sad because that just gives me a migraine which sets off the mini strokes which makes the dementia worse. He gets so frustrated with me when I am not "myself" which I don't know who that is anymore. He says to me "oh that's vaski again." That's her name. Vaski. And that hurts so much.. I hate Vaski... I hate her...

I don't know what to do. Anytime I have a feeling that means it's the dementia talking. How can I make him understand that I have feelings like anyone else? He tells me to stop my medication because he doesn't want me to suffer anymore which makes sense in some aspects right? What should I do.. does anyone know? Can anyone help me? I know he loves me but how can I help him when I am so sick myself?

luv2chat 12/29/2017

Hi first of all i feel for you having this at such a young age...my motherhas the same type of dementia but shes 80 its verytough on you and also people who are close to you....I struggled with it bigtime then joined a support group it sure helped so your in the right place if you need to talk feel freeto message me......would your husband seek a supportgroup to help him understand?

SunCloudJD 01/13/2018

Big hug for you Meg..... I am so sorry that you and your family have having to face this

Is there a RL group that you could attend?

I wouldn't do anything without discussing all the pro's and con's with your doctor first? IMHO..... Another hug and a blessing.....xo

luv2chat 01/14/2018

What is a RL group sunCloud?

SunCloudJD 01/15/2018

real life support group

me98 01/15/2018

If you mean not over the internet my problem is I live in South America....and I feel that I can express myself better in English. There are no support groups in English. I had to go back to the USA to get a clear diagnosis because the doctors here just don't have the knowledge to help me. My husband's first language is Spanish but I think he is in a stage that doesn't want help unless it is from friends or family.

Do the medications really help "cure" Dementia? The doctors here says so but I don't know whether to believe them because they couldn't find it in the first place...

luv2chat 01/15/2018

Hi meg all ive heard about the meds is they can really stall the disease which is a good thing especially if you start them in early stages......good luck meg hugsss.

luv2chat 01/15/2018

Thanks Sun Cloud for telling me what rls is.

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