From reading posts I get the feeling that guilt is a big factor in having a loved one with dementia. I don't think feeling guilty is very healthy for anyone. Also, if you as a caregiver have a lot of guilt then you can easily get into 'caregiver syndrome'. My husband's doctor explained this to me. It is ok to admit you can't handle something and need help. We don't have to do everything. Also, we can let go of somethings. It's ok if their clothes don't match or other small things. If they are not hurting themselves or someone else then I think we should let small things go.
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