Daughters of Abusive Mothers Community Group
For those of us whose mothers were (or still are) abusive to us. In a society that puts mothers on a pedestal it can often be lonely dealing with the feelings of hurt, betrayal, anger, emptiness and grief of having an abusive mother. People with loving mothers often find it hard to believe or understand. Here is a safe place to express the feelings and find others with...
My husband is away for a week. I don’t really mind being alone for awhile. He’s a narcissist (although trying very hard not to behave like one), so it’s sometimes a relief to be apart from him. However, I find that when he’s away I struggle even more with my self-worth and self-confidence. I guess, when he’s home, I’m distracted enough that I don’t notice how worthless I feel and how depressed I am all the time. I find I don’t want to eat because I don’t feel worthy of being well cared for. When my husband is home I enjoy cooking good food and I’m happy to eat it as well, but I can paint that with the idea that I’m sacrificing to care for him: as long as I don’t have to admit to having any value.
It regularly amazes me; the damage my mother did by not caring about me for those important, formative years. I feel quite sure I’ll never be a secure or confident human being. I will just struggle til I die.
You deserve a husband who cares deeply for you. You deserve to eat. You deserve to be safe and taken care of. You did not deserve to be neglected and hurt by your mother. I really hope that you are able to find comfort and start to see yourself as the beautiful woman you are.
much love
-hannah