Daughters of Abusive Mothers Community Group
For those of us whose mothers were (or still are) abusive to us. In a society that puts mothers on a pedestal it can often be lonely dealing with the feelings of hurt, betrayal, anger, emptiness and grief of having an abusive mother. People with loving mothers often find it hard to believe or understand. Here is a safe place to express the feelings and find others with...
I'm new to this, the site and the group. and. I don't know. I haven't tried reaching out to anyone for so long because there was just nothing i can do. Talking feels pointless now, because every time I ever tried to communicate with my parents everything somehow ends up my fault. They say they want me to tell them what's wrong, and when I tell them I'm hurting and I want to seek help and make amends suddenly... I don't know. I don't know man.
I've been getting talked over for as long as I can remember, I have so many hurts and such a winding and stupidly helpless story that I just don't bother anymore. I'm so tired.
This might be the last time I ever try to reach out to anyone about this. I've just lost my will to heal, because even healing has to feel like an act of spite against her. Yeah. I just want someone to know my name and that I'm in pain and I may not make it out of this and if I don't,
I just want at least one person to know just a fraction of what I feel, because I know she will make sure everything stays under wraps. her stage, her story.
-Tabitha
You are not alone. And there are people who would believe and accept you story and even be able to empathize.
I’m one.
It took me a long time to find someone who understood how incredibly damaging it is to have a parent /mother who treats you the way they do. And sometimes their so good at making it difficult for anyone to understand! I believed my mom’s lies and even perpetuated them! I protected her from having other people say bad things about her, but never got any care in return.
I understand how low you feel, but I really hope you haven’t done any harm to yourself.
Please share your pain with someone other than your parents! Care will need to come from others.