I disagree. Every one of us is attracted to different looks just like we are to different traits. True folks that have a more traditional model look may get more responses and dates it doesn't mean they'll be any more successful than any of the rest of us.

I consider myself to be decent in my looks against what's out there. Women in my past have convinced me that I'm at the very least well into the average spectrum (lol). Anyway it's given me enough confidence to at least get out and start trying. If we don't push ourselves to get back into dating, we'll gain nothing. Heck, I've really not dated that much (been so picky that most of my relationships last years) but this time I'm forcing myself to be more open to my choices for awhile. Not to rack up numbers, but to have more of an experience with a bigger variety of women and to hopefully become more focused not only in what's important to me now (it's changed as I've changed through the years) but also in the women I've dated as their likes and preferences are different in this new age bracket I'm finding myself dating. I miss being in a couple like crazy but I want to do this right. To do that I'm trying to take it slow, smart and enjoy the journey along the way. One thing that's always proven itself any time I've dated is to never rush into things. I hope this helps...stay positive...things will work out.

How can you disagree with 10+ years of experience? Not ONE has been mutually or reciprocally interested in any more than Friend-Zone?

forget the middle sentence assessment:

"When nobody is interested, aloneness is the only path available. ... Time passes but nothing changes."

^^^ FACT since 2006

but thanks for the comment... that's appreciated since my posts & journals are also mostly ignored on here & other sites.

On OKCupid, no matter what I type, it's IGNORED. 99%

I have 0 luck online. OKCupid, Tinder=NADA. Match.com=I get some matches, but they're the same people that I swiped left on earlier. My 25 yr old daughter has better luck online than I do. I used to think that maybe I have too much old school inside of me and that dating is for the younger people. I used to think that dating is too time consuming and I need to concentrate on work or saving money or something else "practical". Thats not true I know, its how I feel though.

Seems to me I have to stop self-sabotaging myself with this whole dating scene or else my curiosity and hormones will devour me.

Just a question: Do you think maybe you might have something inside thats holding you back to saying yes to some of the possibilities that are online?

Stillstanding-I've tried online dating on and off for years. I've learned there's a huge number of members who are either there for no good reasons or they want a relationship but never will make the commitment despite their wishes. There are however some really good people within the mix. I've made some lifelong friends with women I wouldn't have normally ever met after dating and determining we just didn't quite match.

I too think I've got some qualities that make it hard to find a perfect match. My "ummm you killed a person...that is wrong and that is a dealbreaker" attitude is so opposite of my overall easygoing demeanor-LOL. Call it old school but I still believe in basic morals and treating others as you'd want treated-lol. Over time I've learned to stop chasing after the idea of a forever mate. The bigger picture is to have a happy life surrounded by good people in whatever form that happens to take.

GeocacherNY-your "...nothing changes" quote screams that maybe the problem isn't so much with others but maybe it's time to look at yourself and your own priorities. I had to do a serious attitude adjustment myself and it's made such a positive change. In fact I'd almost say it might have been the final piece in my full recovery from divorce. I'm not being critical but rather just pointing out weather it's your fault or someone else's-the outcomes you say just turn out the same. It's time to consider approaching things differently in the future to help get different results. You already know no changes gets no new results. What have you got to lose? Good luck :)

"When nobody is interested, aloneness is the only path available. ... Time passes but nothing changes."

Thanks for the comments... and now it's months/year(s) later & still the same... 'nothing changes'. I haven't met anyone new in a long time 'in person' & gave up on online, the very few that seem real don't even reply.

Maybe if I didn't have MS I'd be able to go places where I don't/can't now.

I travel the country for 4-6 months a year in my RV & don't even meet potentials anymore.

The only thing I have going for me is my relationship ALONE, with Me, Myself & I. I'm not even sure I want to have another anymore. I heard about MGTOW & Incels turning Volcel. The world has changed so much by the time I got divorced & then got worse & worse the last few years. I used to think it was me but met many others I didn't think would have a problem meeting others & they have the SAME predicament.

And so it goes.................

I've done some dating.. But I haven't met anyone I view as a good enough match to regularly date.

and 2020 definitely destroyed all the very little potential there may have been. and during these months, OKCupid suddenly banned my account with no warning or recourse. POF is just useless. Since March I've gone out like 2-4 hours a week, usually to my chiro & only grocery shopping.

Attitude ... Is more important than looks !!! ............I don't care how a person looks ,there is someone out there who WILL find you attractive !!!!!! Period !!!!!

It’s gotta align, you know, life and all. I too agree with Jobbie: attitude of gratitude and the Spiritual attraction is all one truly needs to be bound with another when it comes to the physical world & physical attraction.

Purpose is so important & powerful. Not been dating because I’m legally married, although I filed for divorce from my spouse as early as 2019, as a result of infidelity, which is enough evidence of irreconcilable differences, along mainly with his attitude of all or nothing, which is his abusive attitude.

But I know Love (the Greatest Love possible on earth) is for me & with me as I weigh it out in the best way possible.