Sorry I wasn't about when you posted this.

Although I am a male cross dresser I and relate to what you are saying. It is great that your husband participates like this and I am sure you will find many women like yourself.

You say you do do anal sex on him (with a strap on I guess), does he also dress as a woman when you do this, I imagine doing a complete swap like that would be fun.

I am just curious, do you find that it being so accepted for women to wear male style clothes takes some of the excitment out of it for you.

Thanks for your reply! He doesn't dress as a woman... but you're right, that does sound interesting...but alas not to him. It is more of a gay-men scenario that's going on with us.

Regarding the question of male style clothes being accepted...I think my initial reaction is yes, it does take some of the excitement out of it....but on the other hand I kind of depend on it too. I'm not sure I would have the guts to go out in a dress if i was a guy because of the instant intense reactions. But I don't really get any second looks when I go out...which is a relief for me because I'm not out to draw attention to myself. So it really becomes about how I feel about myself in my own skin and what my h knows I'm doing and the anticipation of what is going to be happening later when we get home. But on the other hand...it wouldn't be entirely truthful if I said how others view me isn't important. Because on a certain level it does matter. I would like to take it further, get the boot camp buzz and try to get into busy men's rooms without a second glance... if I was able to do that, then how others see me would be making a difference...just sorting through it all...

Actually I am a private cross dresser but I have felt the need to tell a few people about it particularly on DS.

For me I have strong feminine side and this is the thing I really like to talk about and am starting to do so.

Do you have a strong male side into male sports, sports cars, playing poker and drinking with the guys in bars?

Are you good at getting how men think about things?

Yes, I think i have a male side, as in: worked in construction during college, into sports, cars? not really as an adult, but I did play with toy cars as a girl. As i think about it, a lot of my friends growing up were boys, and i always felt more comfortable hanging with groups of guys or mixed groups than hanging with a group of girls only. I think I get how men think about things to a certain extent...but sometimes still mystified!!! :)

That's great that you are starting to talk about it a little bit...me too! Feels good doesn't it?

Em

Let me take a punt here Em, as they say in gambling terms.

The thing that mystifies you about many guys is the often complete lack of interest in getting in touch with their emotions because they are missing out so much by not doing so.

If this is the case don't worry, as a guy I am mystified as well. It is a real shame I think sometimes when I see two guys who are real good friends and they can't talk about their feelings for one another, they somehow seem to have the idea that their friends might think them gay or something when in reality sexuality has nothing to do with it.

I have a problem with my father at the moment I would really like to hug him and say I love him but I am afraid to because I know it would make him feel awkward, I know he has problems expressing his emotions.

All I can say is thank goodness I have a feminine side.

Yes, I think you're right about that being what mystifies me to a certain extent. My father-in-law sounds a lot like your dad in that hugs and emotions make him feel uncomfortable. But I can understand where he is coming from a bit because I can tend to be that way myself. So I love him for it because that is just part of who he is. It doesn't frustrate me usually...and I'm not needing deep conversations with my father-in-law anyway! But who he is is part of who my h is, so it matters in my life. However I am fortunate that I have many guy friends who are very in touch with and can identify emotions, and masculine at the same time. This includes my dad who is exceptional in this area...very expressive emotionally but doesn't doubt his masculinity one bit...and no one seems to question it either as he was a US Marine and high school football player. Think NLF football players who are so masculine they knit scarves with no problem with it at all. That's kind of like my dad!

So I think what really mystifies me about men is more in the arena of responsibility. So many seem like boys in that they expect to be taken care of. Example: I make sure the lawn is mowed, do the taxes, pay the bills, clean the house, maintain the cars, sign our son up for sports, help our son with his homework, know when he is going on a fieldtrip or has a concert, shop for groceries, do home repairs, remember birthdays, pick out gifts. I also seem to be the spiritual leader of the family and say grace, volunteer at charities, and make sure we get to church regularly. I know much of this is my fault and I need to work on boundaries. I do step back too and let him do things his own way...so I don't want to sound like a dominating controlling drag king! But I look at other households and many couples are living the same way (minus the drag king). Responsibility is on women. It's not just all the tasks, but emotional neediness and immaturity too that I see in men. Sometimes men just seem to have a lot of fears. And so maybe that ties back to the lack of getting in touch with emotions? Maybe they are tied together in a way? Thoughts on this?

Hi There. I feel a little like I am interrupting a private conversation, but here goes! I am also a woman who is beginning to take the first steps into cross dressing. I always used to dress in men's shirts and jeans when I was in my teens, but since then have confined to the 'normal'. I have just realised that one of the main reasons that I feel unhappy is because I have been suppressing this side of me. I have bought a packing dildo (from the US - you cannot get them in the UK) and also a binding shirt (again from the US). Contrary to the views of flying free though, I do not feel acceptable to wear these out. I still feel as much a 'woman in man's clothing' as my husband who is also a cross-dresser (reverse situation, obviously). I am trying to perfect make-up and hair style to look more masculine, but still look quite girly. Part of me says that I should just do it and let everyone else sort out their own reactions to it, but I am still terrified of being ridiculed.
Anyhow, to answer your question, you are not the only one out there. It's just that when people think of cross-dressers they immediately think of men.

my roommate doesn't notice that I cross dress, he just want me to build a bed in the spare bedroom. I would love to talk to him about feelings. This is why I am attracted to gay men. They don't seem to want to force women and we can have the same interests without them feeling threatened. Though I could be wrong there. (How is gambling a male thing? isn't it a public expression that I don't know a damn thing about math?)

I have been crossdressing since i was a child and love to fine a female that likes to cross play............