Well, I am not a doctor, and there could be a lot of reasons for his tiredness.
He might have sleep apnea, where he quits breathing for a few seconds during sleep, all night, so he really never gets rest, or if copd related he could have a very low oxygen level, which if very low could damage some major organs.
My Oxygen level would go down at night while I was asleep and I would wake up tired, go to work tired, and come home tired. When I got on oxygen, it made a major difference in how I felt, my energy level, ect.
His constant cough is also a red flag for copd and several other things, like bronchitis.
I hope you can get him to a specialist, a pulmonary doctor, soon. What do the doctors who gave him the inhalers say about oxygen?
He is going to need to make some major changes in his lifestyle. I hope he nor you smoke. I would say it would set up red flags with me if that were my husband and with what I know about copd. But maybe the only way you are going to find out for sure is ask him nicely. Good luck with it and blessings to you both.
BJ

Taking it all together, it sure soumds like COPD. You can't sleep if you are coughing all night. I tried it and it doesn't play well at all. I still take naps because of no stamina. Such is the nature of the disease
I pray you can get him to discuss what is going on. Trying to hide COPD will eventually put you in the hospital...

Hugs,
Dennis

I sleep pretty good at night but still have to take a nap during the afternoon and they're pretty long naps like 2 or 3 hours. I'm not sure about your husband but maybe check to see about the sleep apnea. Wishing you both well.

I often take naps during the day , sometimes more than 1.....no matter how much sleep I got the night before........sometimes this just sucks ya dry......which sucks:(:(:(

Sure hate to think your hubby would be hiding this from you:(:( Kinda hard to hide.........

Good luck to you both:):)

When it is hard to breath it takes so much out of your body and this makes you very tired. I take several naps during the day especially when I am having a bad day of sob.

After his physical, I point-blank asked him, "Did the doctor tell you you have COPD?" His answer was, "Well, she didn't say those words, so no." She sent him for some "lung" tests where he had to breathe into tubes. Every time I ask him about the results, he says he hasn't got them yet but if there was a problem, he thinks his doctor would let him know.

After that test, we got the COPD pamphlet in the mail. I said, "I thought you said your doctor didn't diagnose you with COPD." He said, "Well, why do you thing she put me on all this breathing medication."

I have been prone to anxiety and panic attacks in the past, and I think he's worried I might react badly to that news, especially considering my brother died last year as a result of COPD. I took it really, really hard.

My husband is still a heavy smoker. Now that he's retired, he's probably smoking 3 packs a day. When I talk to him about quitting, he says, "Well, I have to die of something!"

It makes me angry that he won't even try to quit smoking. It makes me angry that he won't go to the doctor to work out a treatment plan. It is going to take a major event before he will decide he'd better do something. So far he hasn't had a major event.

I send him all kinds of links to information about COPD. He didn't even bother reading the pamphlet the insurance company sent him. I'm getting as much as information as I can about this because I think one of us should know about it. So I read this page every day and I do a lot of research on the web. I just hadn't found anything that talked about sleeping.

Thank you for the information.

You know you can't help someone who won't help them-self. Have you tried getting another family member to talk to your hubby maybe he might open up to them?

Sounds like he needs to pull his head out of the sand!
Of course, quitting smoking is the most important. COPD is an insidious disease and it creeps up on you. I sleep too much and I've quit smoking, No smoking in my house and I've given up scented candles, air fresheners, and anything else that is scented or comes in a spray can. I feel like I'm fighting for my life but your hubby seems like he hasn't reached that point yet? Can you talk to his doctor?
Stay with us here and ask any questions you have. Everyone is really kind and caring.
Take care of yourself and good luck!

There has been a lot of good advice given, but of course it is up to your husband .
I agree about getting a friend or family member to talk with him. Make it a man that he respects , so he won't seem weak in front of you.
Being ill will not make him any less of a man, but you would be surprised at the men who refuse to go to the doctor because that is not manly, like men do not cry, ect.
There is not a lot you can do until he decided to help himself and admit that he has a problem.
Those inhalers are not going to cure his copd,he needs a pulmologist, who will work a personal plan out for him.
The smokes has got to go, and believe me I know how hard that is. That is a habit you have had for 40-50 years, and suddenly someone says you have to quit...
. Have you talked to him about patches, or nicotine gum? You might tell him maybe HE has to die from something, but he is killing you also!!
Or check out the e-cigarrett, just be careful there because there are so many to choose from, so you want a good brand. Maybe one of the members can name some.
He would still be getting his nicotine but could gradually cut it down, and in the meantime, he would not be getting the tars and chemicals.
So try the male friend route, and if you know one who has a problem and has seen a doctor, that is good. Or a female, if no other choice.
But I think alot of time with men, it is denial, and maybe fear . Keep us posted on what is going on. I hope he understands very soon he needs to get medical help .

Blessings
BJ

Denial is not a river in Egypt. BJ is spot on. A tlak with a close friend may just do the trick.
He probably doesn't realize that not knowing and being unable to help is harder on a wife than otherwise.
The smokes got to go. Tis hard, but is worth it.

Prayers,
Dennis

I quit smoking in 1992. I used the patch to quit. I recommend it highly to anyone who has problems quitting. For me, it took enough of the edge off that I was able to push through the cravings and quit for good. I have recommended them to him, but he's really not interested in quitting. I truly believe it will take a major incident before he wakes up. I just pray that it won't be bad enough to kill him.

I wish my husband had a friend or family member he could talk to. He does not. He has become quite a recluse since he quit work. His friends have come and gone. He is not close to his family at all. He hates is youngest brother and doesn't know where his other brother is. We've been married 14 years and he hasn't talked to either of his brothers in all those years. He's not close to my family, either. They live in another state. He is pretty much an old curmudgeon who is quite anti-social (the exact opposite of me).

I know there is very little I can do if he's not willing to try to save himself. I try to fix healthy meals. He will eat the meal (or part of it) then top it off with ice cream or brownies or other stuff that he's picked up at the store.

Another problem he has is his vision is starting to go. He has macular degeneration, and he doesn't see very well. That's why I'm afraid he just won't do anything to save himself.

I keep reminding him how much my grandkids would miss him if something were to happen to him. My 3-year-old granddaughter is the love of his life, I think. Her 4-year-old sister is a close second. I'm trying to work that route, but I don't know if it's going to work. He's said to me before, "I hope [granddaughters' names] remembers me when I'm gone."

I'm sorry for dumping this on you guys. I know that you have major struggles of your own. I just don't know where else to turn. California laws prevent his doctor from giving me any information, and I'm positive he wouldn't allow her to.

Don't get me wrong, he is a really good guy. He just seems to have a death wish, and I don't know what to do to stop the downward spiral.

Please don,t apologize, you are not dumping on us. We all have traveled the road with this disease, some in the same way,, and some in different ways.
But the blessing of this group is that you can vent, cry, ask questions, and get honest from the heart answers and advice from people, who have been there, not doctors.

It is such a sad and frustrating situation you are in, and short of prayer, I am running out of advice. But others here may come up with something.
THe doctor may not GIVE you information, but what is wrong with you making an appointment with her for a consult, and just tell her what you have told us, and how worried you are.
Tell her you know she can not devulge information, but all you want from her is to help her patient.
He may not have told her everything.
Is there just a casual friend he might meet with at times that he might listen to, and I would say clergy, or even a social worker at the hospital and doctor's office.
Some one needs to find out why this man cares so little if he lives or dies. You said he remarked he hopes the baby remembers him, well tell him the little grandchild would rather have him to play with and make memories.
I hope someone else here can come up with better advice than mine. You are a good wife to stand by him, he is lucky. I hope something works for you. I will be praying it does.
Blessings
BJ

i am so sorry you are dealing with this. i know it's very hard to love someone and want to help them when they don't want to help themselves. i deal with addiction & alcoholism in my family & it is so hard to be "recovered" and watch others that i love unwilling to even try. (i know it's different disease, but it kills also so i do understand you frustration & helplessness) my prayers are with you and your husband.

It seems like I am always sleeping. When in reality; I get very little quality sleep. Yes, COPD can cause exhaustion, in some. It really causes exhaustion in me; when I have a "good day" and then overdo.
The next day, I am down and out. I still can not act out "pacing" myself.
I do try----but when I feel well----there are so many things to do.

I am sorry for you and your husband. It is effecting both of you. Please, be understanding with his need to sleep. Also, depression plays a part in this disease. Some of us (like me) sleep because I find myself too depressed to face the day. You could gently bring up
anti-depressants to him; when the time is right----if that is part of his
extra sleep time. Best wishes to both of you.