Don't cry be happy. You only are allowed so much energy each day. This frees you up to do things you want to do instead of have to do with that available energy. You life will be so much better. I had a house keeper for a while and loved it, look forward to being able to do it again. Help with the bathrooms and floors was my greatest need, they seem to do me in quickly.

Dee, Dee, Dee,

Really don't cry, you should be joyful that of all the tasks you have to do, that all you have on your plate, the housecleaning PIA isn't one of them. But remember, no matter how hard your house cleaner works she will never do as good a job as you could, so be forgivefull, as she works to meet your standards, and your lovely home will be as nice as you want it to be. I have had a housekeeper for years and love it, and would never never want to go back to cleaning this joint again. -- Take care, smile, and be thankful you have the ability to have someone, take this PIA chore off your plate.-- Bill

Dee, I was planning on having one as I got older anyway so now I have a better reason for one. Not the reason I prefer but the end result is still the same.

If I weren't so hard headed, I would probably have already called the one that my hubby has given me the number for. Everytime he gives it to me, I "lose" it and he gets it again. LOL

Just enjoy and think of yourself as deserving to have a housekeeper. Also, have you thought about a private chef? That is what is at the top of my list. :)))

Hugs,

Can't afford one myself, but I think I do understand your feelings about it, deegran. It's kinda like giving up, I suppose...but as others have said, maybe if you can begin to see the housekeeper as a blessing who will free you to do more fun and important things.

KyleesNan, you are right. I think once I get used to it, it will be good.

LilEllie, I laughed when I read about a personal chef. My husband does pretty good at that. :)

Imarighter, Thanks for understanding.

FLHam49, Thank you too. Sent you a message. What's a PIA?

Deegran, PIA = Pain In the Ass, enjoy your afternoon. -- Bill

deegran: You deserve the help. I put off asking for help; out of pride. I hate admitting that I am no longer Wonder Woman. I have a State licensed caregiver come twice a week for two hours, each week. I have to pay $220. per month; but it is worth it. I could not imagine fitting that into my budget; but I did get some concessions from the State for qualifying for a home health aid.
I was panicked at first; and tried to clean everything; so my worker would not think I was a "slob". It is funny now; cleaning for my cleaner??? I was embarrassed at the state my home was in; even though it is cleaner than most places. Good luck with your help. Think of it as taking care of yourself. If you do not take care of yourself; no one else will; and you will be unable to help out others when you want to.

Don't be upset over that!! Be happy!!! I agree with kyleesnan --bathrooms & floors knock me out!! A cleaning service is a GREAT thing to have & gives you time to concentrate on more important things, enjoy it!

It is a tough and rude awakeniing when we know there are things we just cannot do anymore. Once you find someone who can get the job done, that you like and look forward to seeing, you will find that you love having someone come in rather than struggling to keep up with it all.
It will leave you more energy for fun things and will be a blessing before you know it!!

ENJOY!!!

Well now, don't be like me - after I quit smoking, I rewarded myself by using the money I spent on cigarettes to having someone come in and do the "heavy" work such as moping floors, vacuuming, etc. Only problem was I always cleaned the house the day before she came....didn't want someone having to clean a "messy" house! (Geeezzz!)

In the end, I just did it myself, however, I know I'd have a different attitude now and really just enjoy the extra help - maybe just curl up with a good book while the floors are being moped!

Seems some of us ladies are an odd lot...when we are quite capable we always say we'd like a housekeeper...then when we get one we feel inadequate or guilty! LOL