zenobiagar, I've not done well as far as relationships go, so I have no advice but I did want you to know that I'm so sorry for your situation and pray you'll find a successful solution. I cannot imagine having to live like that.

Ugh, that's rough. Therapy can be so helpful. It's good you talk about it I think.

Sorry. Many years ago someone told me..."you teach people how to treat you". I agree. if it is uncomfortable for you Therapy may be the answer.

We reap what we sow, unfortunately, we don't always reap WHERE we sow. All the good that you've done will (has) come back to you in other relationships and prayerfully, restoration of your marriage. Kudos to both of you for at least attempting something proactive by going to Counseling. Walking on eggshells is no way to live. I've been there however, I now refer to that place as Never, Never Again land. Blessings

That has to be a sad situation for you to put up with, and I hope the therapy works.Some men do not like change, and especially do not like role reversals. Therapy is a good thing as long as it works, but just one on one talking is also needed. A man acting like that needs to remember his vows and honor them, not wimp out at the first sign of problems. I hope it gets better for you, because you need reassurance, not remarks.
Brenda

Zenobiagar, I have walked in your shoes and it is so painful--I really feel for you. My husband was in a lot of denial of my illness and thought I was lazy/being a hypochondriac. A few marriage therapy sessions a couple of years back were not helpful as the therapist took his side because she knew nothing about chronic illness.
Over the last year, my husband has learned more about COPD and has come to acceptance.
I think the most important thing for you to remember is that you need to do what's right for your health no matter what. If you don't have any support, keep looking and reaching out until you get it. If you are able and haven't already done it, get involved in pumonary rehab. Please let us know how you are doing in this....sending hugs!

I can`t imagine what you are going through just want to let you know I am praying for you and sending you blessings.

Just remember we all deserve respect, dignity and compassion x x x

i haven't been in a relationship for years, but i just wanted to give you a (((((HUG))))) and say i'm sorry you're having to deal with this.
could it be your husband is scared & afraid of losing you and this is his "manly" way of reacting to that fear? hopefully if it is, it can be worked thru with therapy.
i can only speak for myself, but i know sometimes if i get scared; i cover my emotions with anger ~~~ it's easier to be angry for me than scared, but today when i'm angry i try to catch it and figure out the real reason.
his being an amputee and you always have been there to care for him may be very scary to him the thought of losing you.
whatever is happening, i wish you peace and happiness & will pray that everything works out well.
((((HUGS))))

Zenobiaga, it has been brought to my attention that one of my comments to you was un acceptable, and after re-reading my comment I see where you might have been offended or someone else might have been . In my comment about what you needed from your husband was reassurance, not remarks, I was referring to the put down remarks you insinuated he made. Someone here thought I was saying you did not need remarks from us, or something like that., I am not sure myself.
Anyway, I meant no offense to you , or anyone else, I just did not make my self clear enough.
I do hope things get better for you,
Brenda

Isn't it ironic that thus topic is "relationships"? Ha

My husband is in denial. I am getting too tired to keep working and he just pretends it is not happening. He just doesn't talk about it at all. He doesn't seem to get my life expectancy has decreased. Anyway don't mean to ramble. Just know you aren't alone even though your problems are different. This is one reason ya'll are so important. Support.

I agree with the others, maybe your husband is in denial. I know when my first husband was sick I was in denial and did not want to face the fact because I loved him so much and didn't want to lose him. The day I faced reality was when we were at his Dr.s appointment and they told him the only way he would live is with a liver and kidney transplant. Then I realized how sick he really was. I don't think personally in my opinion another person can understand a disease unless they have it. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband.
Hugs

I guess i'm lucky in a way, that Val is an LPN, and she knows about COPD, and the symptoms etc..

But, unless I tell her, "I need to sit down, I am out of breath ,and need to rest', she doesn't really pay much attention to it, and it does not affect our relationship, Luckily!!!

I am sorry that your husband is not being caring, and supportive of your problems. He needs to know that you are a person with needs, and symptoms, that DO affect your life. Tell him how it really "feels"...when you are having trouble.

I think counseling is a great idea too..

GOod luck and I hope everything works out for the 2 of you!

Love will survive over anything....

Boo

Both of you are in my prayers.

Hubby is doing better. He's on a new depression med that seems to be working finally. Therapy is helping. We are getting along much better now which is great since I love him so much and can't imagine life without him. Thanks to all for everything. Nice to have a place to vent!