Compulsive lying Community Group
For individuals who lie because they cannot reveal their true selves to other people in their lives at the risk of being disliked. Are you a victim of this type of abuse??
After 38 years I believe I have finally come to terms that I am a compulsive liar. I literally lie about everything under the sun. I don't think I know how to be truthful. My current relationship is on the verge of a melt down because of my lying.
Where do I begin or how do I start being honest? I don't cheat I don't steal but in a since I do all those things through lying. I'm stealing things from my loved ones, their trust in me, I'm cheating on them with all my falsehoods.
I suffer from depression as well. I currently see a therapist for that. On Prozac.
I just need a push in the right direction.
Im currently standing on the edge of a cliff with nowhere else to go and I am too afraid to jump. *That is not in a literal sense, just figuratively*
What I have come to understand is that Lying is not just a bad habit as many therapists are trained to deal with.. It is truly an addiction. A specialist who is trained in addition is typically an ex-addict themselves. Is your therapist an ex-compulsive lier? Drug addicts definitely don't respond well to non-addicts telling them what to do and telling them how they think they should change. This is why with drug addition a main aspect of the recovery process is support groups filled with ex-addicts.
If you are really looking for a constructive direction.. I would force your self to join a 12-step program. Treat it like drugs. Personally, I'm pretty isolated and with this whole virus situation going on, It's not ideal for group activities.. I was recommended a book called "recovery" by Russel Brand. I bought the audiobook for $14. I find the way he translates the 12-steps relatable and honest, but if you're more of a church-based thinker then there are many faith-based 12-step programs.. All 12-step programs are essentially based on the same principles.
I used to gag at the idea of programs.. but I have to remind my self that these 12-steps have been helping millions of addicts make a change since 1953 and the reason why they continue is due to the fact that they are run by ex-addicts that have recovered using the program and feel the desire to help push others through the steps as well.
I would recommend getting a book on an addiction recovery program.. If you relate then you have found a new direction, if you don't.. don't stop looking.. I'm sure you will find your path as long as you remember that what you are doing now and what you have always done is not working. Something new is required if your going to heal your self. You have proven that by being still stuck where you are right now.