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Hi all,
I'm 27 and known I was gay since the age of 13, I've told a couple of my friends but I can't seem to pluck the courage to tell my parents, any advice?
WyndWytch
any reason why you would think that they would be against it? Generally speaking we as humans are good at coming up with the worst possible case. you know them best, are you scared because of your mind playing tricks or because they legit are against the idea?
biguy1991
Think more scared of saying the words more than anything, I’m really insecure and always worry about what people’s opinon of me are! :/
WyndWytch
I think a lot of people are worried about what others think of them, and while I would say in a lot of cases you shouldn't care what others think of you, which is true, it is WAY harder to tell someone that when it comes to parents and family. Family should stand by you through anything simple as that, parents especially. However there are some parents out there who don't. So for the sake of simplicity lets say that your parents are against it. I am assuming you are on your own at this point and not living in their house. You've known since you were 13, and today you told them and they flipped out. What does that mean for tomorrow? Well it probably means a lot of questions, questions and more questions. From how you talk of them I don't think you're fear is that they will never talk to you again but them accepting you. So if they don't, what would happen? Really it just means you don't bring your significant other to dinner really, or if you do you keep it low key. I responded to another post you replied to in here for someone else, Challenge them outside of coming out. talk to them about the topic and find out what exactly they have issues with and why, educate them and try to sway their opinion. What if their best friend was, so on, question them, force them to re-evaluate that stance based on various considerations and such. It will give you a better idea of really where they stand and what they will think when you do come out. Just remember one important thing. The initial response will be shock. people often go through the same stages they do when lose someone, shock, anger, grief, bargaining, acceptance. you've rattled their perception of you and in some ways its been shattered, but its a false perception and one that will now get corrected. Hope this helps.
Honkwell
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