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telling family

alimac2009
alimac2009
I told my mom im gay and she told my dad and they are cool with it. I told my brother and he doesn't beleive me, he thinks im bs-ing him (homophobic). My question is about my family. I am really close to my older cousins (26-27-ish) and they are really religious. They have mentioned before being okay with gays because one of my cousins my age is gay and completely out with it. I just wanted to know if I should tell them, or tell them if the situation comes up or just lie to them, ignore it, or what?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Well if they are ok with your other cousing your age who is also gay, I don't see a problem with you telling them maybe casually when the topic is brought up =].
deleted_user
deleted_user
lucky you :) and yeah just mention it like its no big deal goodluck
deleted_user
deleted_user
Of course you should tell them! Trust me, with family, the cat is going to be let out of the bag sometime, and it may as well come from you. I think they will be okay with it, especially if they're okay with your cousin. Good luck, let us know how it goes!
Love,
Mahadra
deleted_user
deleted_user
You should totally tell them. If they're already okay with another gay cousin, why shouldn't they be okay with you?
Besides, you don't want your brother to be the one to tell them, do you? And if he's acting like this is all a big old joke, he just might bring it up to them AS a joke and make it sound like you're just confused. They should get the real story straight from the source.
alimac2009
alimac2009
Thanx to you all. You all seem to have said the same thing so I guess I will tell them the next time the topic is brought up. I will let you all know how it goes. I just sort of have one more problem with this. The last time I tried to bring up the subject of gays my cousin (26) pretty much went crazy in saying "being gay is a choice" and why and all that crap. I just dropped it after that but I just don't want her to go all religious every time she see's me quoting things from the bible on gays.