Sadly, there is no one way to come out. Everyone has a different situation and a different scenario and when and how to do that is based on that. The only real answer is you just say it. The trick is the when and how. You know your situation better than anyone, so now the trick is to sit down and honestly think about your situation and your place and decide the best method. For some, they just sit the parents down and say hey i am X. others have to kind of work their way into it, others write letters and leave it at their parents house, some write emails, some do it over the phone. Some never say anything at all. If you separated your feelings from the situation, are your parents truely likely to be against it? I pose that because one of the things we are best at is psyching ourselves out. Note that them understanding is different than being for or against. They can be for it, and still not understand. they simply have no frame of reference just how you might never really understand their side. Nice thing is, we dont have to understand, just accept. So are your parents accepting? Do you have someone you plan to bring over? If not then you have time to mull it over to come up with the solution. I doubt this was overly helpful but its sadly the best i can do. The methods of coming out are as infinite as stars in the sky, the key is to choose one. How you choose is based on you, your situation and you knowing your parents.

My story if you want to read, I came out to my parents over the phone. Ive fought depression my entire life. My mother of course knew this because she had to take me to therapy when I was a kid for it. She also knew i was in and out of therapy my entire life. So when i was ready and stopped convincing myself the world was going to explode if i told anyone, i called her up and said, well i know what the source of the depression is and here it is. So i used the depression as a way to get to it. It was a bit of a half truth in that yes the hiding these things made my depression way worse than it needed to be, but even after i still battle it, its just way better than at any other time in my life. Does my mom understand, not in the least. but i am lucky in that shes okay with not understanding and she just treats any partner i bring over as a human being, like she would if its a friend or any lover or any other person that has ever come and gone. For my situation and life, that method was the one that worked for me.

I am really sorry that you have to deal with that but my parents are pretty homophobic. I know there is no point on trying to come out to them but it is a big burden on my chest.

well there is always a chance that it might open their eyes, i dont know. It is easy to be against something when it doesn't relate to you. Its even easier to dismiss something outright when it doesn't relate to you. When it is knocking on the front door it tends to be a bit different. I dont know if you have tried little tests on them or not, but if not one thing you might try is when they say something homophobic or do something homophobic, challenge them a bit. What i mean is, if say a gay couple is walking around and your parents say something like "that is so disgusting" or something, simply ask them. why is that anymore disgusting than the idea of you and your spouse? bring them to task to explain exactly why they made the statement. If they bring religion into it, well you can say that it has been around longer than most religions out there or bring up the changes the pope has made in regards to how the church is handling things now. If they see something on tv like say some store getting in trouble for not serving a gay couple or something and they say "that's stupid that store should have the right to do X" you have every right to say "what if that was me? would you feel the same if it was your child being treated that way? How about your sister, cousin, so on?" These sorts of subtle challenges will cause them to think about what they are saying and more importantly, they will give you an idea of exactly how homophobic they really are. Are they the type that are ignorant and thus following mass media or the crowd or are they legitly against it? You may already know that answer, but I dont know if you do so thats one way to find out. In the end you do have the right to be you. I would like to think that parents will love their kids no matter what. That said I do know that the world doesn't quite work as it always should. I have seen parents stick to their guns, ive seen them pull 180s, ive seen them come around slowly and i have seen them take it in stride and be happy to see where things go. Hopefully your parents are the type to love their kid regardless. I'm not sure if you live under the same roof as them, but if not, well least you can be you and only have to worry about it on the weekends so to speak. If you do, im sorry you have to be under that weight but it will change eventually and get better. Theres always a path forward.

Thank you i will try!!