Its not uncommon for this sort of thing to happen. I have known a lot of Bi people and generally when they end up in a long running stable relationship that is locked in so to speak, it causes a flip eventually where the drive for the other side was pent up for so long that it becomes a drive. You didn't say if he is aware that you are bi, so I am not sure if he is, but if he is... you should talk to him. Ask him if he would be okay with you having the occasional fling with a girl. I mean heck most men would jump at the chance if they thought they may be able to be included. A marriage is generally more than a sexual interaction, so if that is the only element lacking I don't think it would be good to toss that aside, but if you really aren't in love with him anymore then you should either consider the option that maybe it wasn't meant to be. You could try marriage counselling or whatever if there's issues in the marriage above and beyond the sex area. But I mean talk to him... if he doesn't know you are bi, maybe its time he does know. I mean he's your husband, if you cant trust him, who can you trust? I really think you should try to talk to him about your feelings. don't bring up the addition yet, just that you are bi and your feelings. he may come up with a way to help. never know, but you have to communicate.

I'll talk to him... Maybe counseling... I'm not in love. But, I'm not able to deal with the attachments or complications of bringing a third party in or us both stepping out. Kids make it complicated. And he's in love with me. I will try talking to him.

I do wish you luck, I guess since you aren't in love with him its more figuring out how to stay for the kids? If there isn't like fighting between you two then that isn't a bad objective, if there is though then is it really good for the kids. It is definitely a nest to say the least, but hopefully talking will get something to come out of it.

Im totally in the same situation and struggling to....my identity has been a struggle the sex life with my very recent ex was not pleasing because all i think of is a females body and when i talk to him and my past boyfriends i cant stand the typical guys mind. i cant connect with a brick wall and expect to dry hump it and be happy....so im taking the break up and and taking time for me to figure out what makes me happy....i have kids as well and my family is southern so its hard to have them understand the severity of my identity and its not just to have fun....its my happiness and i deserve it.....i defintely think your happiness is important because its your life you have to live till you die....not anyone elses so go for it hun.