Coming Out Support Group

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MaeOwO
MaeOwO

I was OUTED MY A DAMN MEME my mom is homophobic and I am Bi I talked about pride and she started saying how gross it is and how she doesn't feel like throeing up right now my brother took her side.  I been out yo my mom and bro for over a year and still get "bullied" for it so I am becoming more depressed, help please.

WyndWytch
WyndWytch
not sure your age or what not, but a few things that you should know, if you are in the USA and live at home, what they are doing can be construed as abuse under law as far as the bullying. Whether they like it or not they have no right to psychologically or physiologically abuse you. If you don't live there then you simply don't have to put up with it, tell them that by doing as they are they are showing how little they truly care about you and just stop dealing with them. I know this is harder than it is to say, but it would get your point across. They simply need to pull their heads out. Just remember that things can get better over time, there are always rough spots, but they usually get better in time.
backothecloset
backothecloset
As a minister's son I know what you are going through. Please take a deep breath and realize that you have done the hardest most courageous thing...you came out. Take some time to quietly think about what you feel, and who you are, then when you have practiced saying this to your mother, try to talk to her calmly - WITHOUT YOUR BROTHER - and be honest about your depression.
Each generation has been 'trained' to think and feel the way they do about our sexuality and theirs. Though it may be hard to understand, your mother may hold her beliefs 'honestly' or at least from that training. If that is the case, acknowledging her unease or distaste, while holding your ground about your own beliefs and convictions, may go a long way to letting her find a way to drop her bullying stance.
If this does not work, you will have to take a deep breath and prepare either to sever the relationship for a while, or bulk up for the long haul. Though I sense and feel you pain, I also admire you immensely for doing the thing I lack the courage to do...coming out. Stay proud of who you are and if possible keep your love for your mother alive until she can find her way back to you. If nothing else...know that a perfect stranger has mad respect for you.
....and....please seek either professional help for the depression or at the very least a good support group. Joining here was a brilliant move! See, you are smarter and stronger than you think!!