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Hard to be bi

freedomlover
freedomlover
right now in my school it is really hard to be bi becouse everyone gives you a hard time about it first of..everyone makes fun of you for likeing it...they see you with a guy and go..ohhh i thought you wre a lesbian..or other way around....thye make jokes push you around..give everyone who knows you a hard time..poeple look at you funny...yoiu dont know were you stand...you fall for a guy and dont know if the gu sees you for who you are or sees you just for being bi and some girl and girl action..you cant tell if someone cares for you or not...being bi isnt fun to me...or alot of other poeple..sometimes i have came to regret it and hates it..other times i love if but its so cunfusing becouse..were do you stand..where do i stand
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deleted_user
The best I can offer you is to be completely up-front with everyone in your life. If you meet a boy, let him know that you are not the cast of an adult film :) Let your intended know that you simply have a big heart, and cannot choose between genders, only between souls. I think it is very adult of you not to limit yourself to one type of love only. There are many adults who trap themselves this way, I am proud of you for taking a stand.
Yes, it is hard. It gets a bit easier, but you need to learn to put on your armour. Never let the words of insignificant ignorant people shape who you are. They will grow up, and when they do they will probably be embarassed by their actions. Until then, put yourself near good, healthy non-judgmental people and give yourself time to make your own choices.
You are ALWAYS welcomed here, we won't judge you ;)
Hugs and love,
Mahadra
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deleted_user
I jumped into a relationship with a girl that was experimenting with another girl and I found myself to be on the rebound of this weirdness of overabundant sex and with no real relationship. At 16, you're still really young. By 22 you'll be thinking of ways to manage school and a relationship and work and so on. You probably won't be thinking about whether people care that you're bi or straight. What I mean is that you need to learn to have secure meaningful relationships with people so that you don't wind up guessing whether they really love you or are just saying it to have sex with you. It sounds like you were just curious about the girl thing, like everyone else is. I experimented with guys when I first started college and it has brought me to understand that sex is a very valuable thing that should be used loosely. Preferable for marriage, you really shouldn't let it be the only thing in your life you think about.