Coming Out Support Group

This community is dedicated to the challenges that gay men and lesbian women face, both between the partners in a relationship and from other influences (family, society, etc.). Find support and talk to others who may be facing the same challenges, and share your experience.

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sierralaw 08/12/2019

Hi guys, so I'm new on here. But recently I've been thinking more about myself and what my process is. But I'm concluding that I do think I'm making my way to being bi. I've never said it allowed until tonight, add even then I didn't straight up say "I think I'm bi". But I met a guy who is gay and he really brought up this thought of me actually being bi and not just something I didn't believe. So by the end of the night of seeing him and how open he is with his story and being gay, it brought me to do something really big for me. I went to him and was telling him how I loved how open he is and how great I think it is for him to show it so proudly. But now that I've talked to him its really given me the confidence to own up to it and actually make it part of my life, I just don't know how; or how people will perceive me if I come out. He tells me to own up to it and wear it on my sleeve and let people know I'm who I want to be. I love the confidence he gave me but I just don't know how my parents and friends would react.

sorry, I'm not sure how much all that made sense. I'm still trying to figure out how I'm thinking, even so, I apologize again for it.

WyndWytch 08/15/2019

welcome and sorry it took so long to get a response. ive been out of commission due to healing from a surgery. So heres the thing, being gay, bi, les, all of them have one thing that is very important to consider.... it doesn't stamp your forehead, so you can move freely without anyone knowing until you are ready to bring someone home to dinner so to speak. No one just up and comes out with it right off. Those who claim they did likely knew and accepted what they were for a very very long time and got comfortable with themselves being in that place first. You have not had that luxury. You are just now beginning to come to terms with it yourself, you also haven't had any same sex encounters so who knows for sure that you will actually swing that way? If you know for a fact you are then fine, but you also need to be able to come to terms with it in yourself. This guy is so open because he is 100% okay with who he is, he has 100% accepted the goods and bads and learned to not let it bother him. For now. explore and come out when you are ready. one day you will get there, but it takes time for everyone.

sierralaw 08/16/2019

WyndWytch thank you for saying that, I think I will take some more time to think about it and really see if it is true for me.

acorn551 08/21/2019

hello wyndWytch ,, even though it's part of being human try not to let your doubts get in the way, because the if's would just control your life, Take your plans to move forward in your life and the if's will be now I know , We are all human which happens to be the doubts of what if I do this or that you will never know until you try and no one cant tell you other wise.
it took me years to realize what I needed to do with mine and as of April 23 2019 I left my family not to transition but to get away from the abuse and the neglect that started to do bodily harm to myself and now I am starting to feel at peace with myself getting my health back and starting my transitioning this past week and I keep telling my self over the years will it get better only to have it get worse.
So do yourself a huge favor go with your plans and hope for the best it's all we can do .

I wish you luck my friend

WyndWytch 08/22/2019

heheh I actually did, I had my surgery on the 17th of july and did my whole transition and coming out as bi almost a decade ago. Ive always forged forward, but when I first started transitioning I remember a huge amount of fear and all that comes with coming out in general. I dealt with It for a few years until I had become completely comfy with me. Hence my recommendation to keep that in mind. Got to know what right for you and move forward from there. For me I followed my path, all the ups and downs and I got to where I am. it was a long travel but completed.

Mika40 08/29/2019

Hi I understand and my best advice is to take your time and be yourself .

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