So there are a few elements you will want to consider in this. Firstly is if you remove all other considerations of society (meaning if society couldnt care less) would you have an issue with this scenario. Are YOU truely okay with feeling this way? You being able to be comfortable with it is going to be the first and most critical element with regards to it. There is really no reason to not be, however if there are reasons you deep down are having problems with it, then those need to be addressed first and foremost. Consider that even the most masculine presenting woman will eventually put on a nice dress and heels potentially to go to a special event, are you going to still view them the same and be okay with that? Second is the overall analysis of your situation. Do you live alone, Religious considerations, familial considerations, so on. All of these things play a part in if, when, and whom you choose to come out to. Obviously if you say live at your parents still and are in college in a conservative environment with no real religious affiliations, you may not have to much problem at home as your parents could be more open to the idea and only have issues if you openly display in public. where if you had family that was severely religious then it may be more of a challenge to get them to be okay with things should the need arise. If you live alone, you are more free to explore and no one needs to know what is going on right? Which leads me to the third and final element, which is... does it matter right now? If for instance you are not dating a same sex partner, or you have no option to right now, does the idea of coming out really even matter? You being attracted to someone doesn't really mean anything to anyone unless you let them know about it. Unless you are kissing, holding hands, and what have you in front of them, they dont have to know anything. Frankly coming out is essentially inviting them into your bedroom if you really think about it. You dont know what your friends do in their bedroom they dont need to really know what goes on in yours right? We can infer that if x and y are dating then certain types of things may go on, but do we really know. if you dont know they are dating then you dont know anything. Same too with this. This means you have time. As much time as you need to subtly sway people test people, and know who are allies and who will be resistant, likewise and most importantly it gives you time to experiment and find out where you truly fall before you say something and find out its not correct. It may be right, it may not, you dont know till you try? Just remember there is no stamp on your forehead, no one knows unless you choose to tell them, so you have time. You're still who you are, so find some allies, possibly find someone and test some things out, once you know that okay i am really into this girl, i couldnt care less if shes in a dress or not, and i want to stay with her and be able to take her to thanksgiving dinner with the family, or go out and take her out with friends and show feelings, so on.... Thats when you need to worry more about coming out. for now, just be you and work on item 1 and 2, 3 may be a ways away.

@WyndWytch

I am sure you did not mean it like this, but I found several things in your response kind of offensive. First of all, coming out to people is in noway related to inviting them into your bedroom... That is just offensive. I am concerned with the possibility of coming out because I want to be my truest self, not because I want to sleep with someone. Also I believe you can know without experience. I do not need to have experience with a masculine female to know that I do not look at them as a gender but are attracted to them as a person. I have a good support with both parent, and my friends so that is not concern of mine. And why would it be bad if I said something and it isn't correct. I believe I am not straight but do not know what I am. Does that mean I can never make a classification unless I am 1000% sure? Is anyone even ever totally sure? I get you were trying to help in your response but please think before you say some of those things to someone.

I actually did put a great deal of thought into the post. I never speak before I think and if you look back at other posts here you would see that as I regularly post here. So first let me say i am sorry for missing one word in your initial post. I didn't catch I missed the word NOT in your line of not afraid to come out. Initially I had read it as you were afraid to. I caught it when I reread your post for the 5 times trying to figure out where you were coming from in your response. Now to the other element, you are right it is not meant to be offensive in anyway, however, While I consider your insight into my words useful, I will likely not alter how I say it in the future. The reason is that the analogy is absolutely correct. When you consider the nature of a "Romantic" relationship, vs that of all the other kinds you could have (Maternal/Paternal, Siblings, Friends, Coworkers, so on) there are really very few things that differentiate them to the outside world. Interpersonally there is a great deal of difference however those are only relevant to you and the other person. The outside world which is the side that coming out associates with in the first place, is certain queues that tend to only occur in a "Romantic" relationship. What is one of the largest ones? That you share a bed when sleeping. It has no specific sexual specification in any way, but you do not generally share your bed every night with say a roommate, your brother, sister, parents, coworkers, any other of the forms of relationship you can list. so really what are you doing? You potentially will one day with a "Romantic" one.

To the labeling though, you yourself said you weren't ready to jump into specifying a label. The fact is, coming out is labeling yourself and is attaching one. Do you have to be 1000% sure that you are to do so? No, of course not but you do have to be 1000% ready to. The fact is, in the end you do what makes you happy. Now I don't know about you but me personally, until I've actually tried something I dont know if it actually will. Believe me I have done a great deal of things in my life (Many I would not recommend) in the pursuit of finding out what makes me happy. Some of them worked some of them did not. Because you eluded to the idea that you aren't ready to label yourself yet because you are not sure. I made the recommendation to wait till you are and I do believe that the only way you will know for sure is experience. As above this has absolutely nothing to do with a sexual nature and to take it as such is incorrect.

So I am sorry that you took it offensive. Nothing in there was intended to be, but do understand that every word I type is well thought out and I spend a great deal of time considering how I say things in an attempt to avoid misinterpretation (I have now spend an hour on rewording and retyping this to that end). Obviously in this case, I misread one word due to my dyslexia, and for that I am sorry. I have done my best to explain my statements and to why I made those recommendations. I do stand by them as well. If none of this is of use to you, hopefully someone else will respond to you and give you something that will be. In either case, I do hope you find a solution to your confusion and go on to live a happy live whatever path you end up on. I am sorry it took so long to get back to this, I have been without power or means of communication other than in person for about a week due to storms.